Moments like this day's text and comments help one to see why the Bible should just speak for itself. Paul, in saying this, was offering what was his opinion--he preferred for people to stay single, but he wasn't trying to spook anyone out of marriage. The Society takes it as if it's a near-law and rides it all the way home. First, you're scared of sexual images on TV or wherever, then you're scared of marriage, and then when you get married and have some troubles, you're scared of divorce. (I've experienced all three of those things myself.)
I think, at the same time, my personal views still end up somewhat leaning towards the Society's, even though my actions probably don't always fall in line with their rules. I do think fornication should be avoided, even though I've been guilty of it myself. Actually it's because I've been guilty of it that I believe it should be avoided. The emotions that can be involved are very powerful--it's just not a good idea to focus on those feelings first. I don't think it's something you just 'get out of your system' or 'get out of the way' before you get into a real relationship. It's the relationship that gives sex meaning to begin with. Otherwise it's just a means of getting some pleasure.
But then, this is one post-cult issue I still haven't squared away with myself. I think the world is full of a lot of problems that could be avoided if people would keep their feelings under control. We could not entirely avoid AIDS or the similar consequences. But I believe we could improve things if relationships are built around friendship first. When you have that, sex is just icing on the cake. But icing without the cake just isn't as good, if you ask me. I know, nobody asked me...
I'd be a hypocrite to blast anyone for fornicating or whatever. Knowing just how powerful the sexual feelings are--even more so once you experience intercourse itself--I can see how some might feel more inclined to fornicate and sort of....follow the relationship framework WTWizard made reference to.
But sure, for teenagers, and for those young adults who aren't mature enough to deal with the consequences, I would say avoid sex as much as possible. It can really mess up your life.
But I'm a little biased; I grew up with my ultimate goal being the eradication of all sexual desire. It seemed the only logical option, given the Society's teachings. So...guess you have to take those words with a grain of salt.
