Family is gossiping about me, and then I get a letter

by nextdoorgirl 82 Replies latest watchtower bible

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  nextdoorgirl

  Thanks for the support WhiteDove. The IRONY of this whole thing, is WE ARE NOT EVEN FRIENDS.

  We were best friends through childhood and were roommates as adults, but it gradually became clear to me that this was a leech-type of person. I was the one investing into and fueling the whole thing. I was getting little out of it, and it was abusive. Eventually, I decided I deserved better and moved out and rarely spoke to her again. I did not attend her wedding. We are estranged, because I left her. The few times we have talked, she was nice and wanted me back, but I don't want her back. Especially the way she's treating me now.

  So, in my absence of friendship, my other family members whom were also toxic and I cut out of my life are all talking about me now, about how "concerned" they are about my spirituality. AND, as Scully pointed out, SHE PREFERS THE GOSSIP over the truth.

  As IF THAT WEREN'T CRAZY ENOUGH, she is also "tempting" me with her friendship. I cannot have the privelege of her friendship without doing exactly as she commands. AS IF I WANTED IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Who contacted WHO, bitch! (she contacted me out of the blue to tell me she's heard rumours and can't be my friend if I don't love God. How irrelevant. Were we friends BEFORE???)

  Help me out, guys. What should I say back?

  This oughta be good (rubs palms and smiles evily).
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  White Dove

  "I can see that you are lonely. Conditional love tends to do that."

  "It's lonely at the top, isn't it?"
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  nextdoorgirl

  I don't follow you, White Dove. Why the quotation marks? Is that you talking to me or her?
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  White Dove

  Sorry, I forgot to label it. That is you talking to her. You asked for ideas.
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  nextdoorgirl

  Okay. Haha! I see!

  Thanks!

  I don't necessarily want to drop seeds of reality about the WTS since that isn't my big beef. My beef is lack of love in my family, who learned it from the WTS, despite their claims of being Christ's FOLLOWERS! Ha!

  I am not attending because of the lack of love. They can decide for themselves if that means they are Christ's true followers, I have implied as much that it isn't.

  I have not claimed to not love God or the bible, so she is just looking for a reason to lynch me. Common practice in my abusive family.

  I am not talking to her to gain a friend, I could care less about what she offers. But, I did want to clear my name and protect myself with threats of lawsuits for defamation of character, and to make a defense for myself USING THE BIBLE, to show them how STUPID their accusations that I lost faith in the bible are, and that I don't want to be God's follower anymore.

  I am dishing a different facet of reality, and hopefully causing her to think.

  In my response letter, I would like to remind her not to circulate this information either verbally or through text, or I will sue for defamation of character. It may already be too late. My family is vicious as vultures.

  What else shoudl I include? I like the bit about it being lonely in the land of conditional love, WhiteDove.
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  nextdoorgirl

  I got an idea, how about I write this:

  You have already convicted based on a malicous rumour. Your actions to do this--wholly based on nonconfirmed information and hearsay--is evidence in my case that the malicous gossip IS defamation of my character and damaging me in my social circle. Incidentally, you have not provided the names of the gossipers, nor answered my questions about what was said. I want that information so I may face my accusers, set straight misinformation, and give them fair warning about a pending lawsuit.

  Jesus was also lynched on baseless accusations. Regarding those accusations, he gave them plenty of defense through his words, yet he did not dignify hatred with a response. If you want to know what's truly in my heart, whether I have faith in the bible or whether I am a Christian, just re-read my words. You'll either see truth, or see what you want to see.

  You are hereby warned that if you talk about me to others or share any of the information I have provided through letters or texts, and that effects their behavior toward me, you will be sued for defamation of character. This lawsuit can successfully be won regardless of accuracy of information. It is based on whether it DAMAGES me socially.
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  nextdoorgirl

  So, don't think you're "safe" or they're "safe" because you believe their talk was about "true statements" I made. Accuracy of information is not the determining factor--it is information used to harm a reputation that causes damage to a person socially. The comments already made about me by others, that have caused your inquiry in the first place, are sue-worthy.

  Likewise, disfellowshipping as well, is sue-worthy, as well as anti-Christian and Pharisaical. Elders have been and will be sued for defamation of character. Ask yourself, do you want to go to court, or do you want to live as Christ did, and love unconditionally, shunning no one?

  Did Jesus ever instruct his followers to shun? Rather, he never shunned many people deemed shun-worthy by his religious leaders. Will you be a Christian, or a Pharisee?
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  bez

  Hey their, i have sent you a PM ... My advice , she wont listen to just keep it brief and leave her too it... or dont reply at all... that is what she wants and your just fueling it for her gossip!

  AS hard as it is to keep it brief or not even reply... you will realise in the next few days how 'satisfying' it feels... but if you do feel the need to write something.. as i say.. keep it brief, she wont know what to do!!!
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  nextdoorgirl

  Here's another one:

  You are conducting an inquisition based on a rumour. You have found me guilty when there is no evidence. You inquire into my heart but ignore my answers, and call them "warped." You ignore my request for the information of my accusers so that I may warn them of a pending lawsuit. You threatened me that you won't love me and associate with me unless I do exactly as you want me to do. You are offering conditional love and friendship, while claiming to be Christ's follower (hypocritical). You said you will always be there for me, under certain conditions. Are you trying to win me back?

  If you say anything about me, or share any of the information I have given you, that damages me socially, (for example, causes people to discontinue associating with me) you will be sued for defamation of character in a civil courtroom. For the well-being of all involved, please provide the names and information that was stated about me, so that I may provide direct warning to them.
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  nextdoorgirl

  Okay guys, I finally sent one. Tell me what you think (I tried to keep it brief, Bez! :) ) :

  I am waiting for you to provide urgent information that can materially affect my life: the names of the people and the statements made about me that have caused you to doubt me and threaten to withdraw your association.
  
  Without this information, how can I confirm or deny what is being said about me?
  
  These malicious rumours are damaging me in my social circle, as your statements above display--you demand I confirm or deny these rumours and if I do not, you will discontinue associating with me, taking that as a silent confirmation of truth to the malicious rumours. This only shows the extent of the damage already done by the rumours--you are ready to believe, with no evidence, that they are true, if I do not respond to the accusations.
  
  I want this defamation of character to stop and I warn you and the others to quit talking about me under penalty of law.