Hi Shelby I agree with most of what you said, and one thing I love about you, PSac and Tec is that you all focus on the positive aspects of being a Christian. I believe in fundamentally the same things, I just don't see why we need to use a deity in any form to accomplish these positive personality adjustments.
Greetings, dear Poopsie (the greatest of love and peace to you... and SO hope you have some popcorn standing by!! ). I totally understand what you mean. For some, perhaps that isn't necessary - perhaps they know... and do... such things "by nature." For me, I would be lying if I said that I knew what such "positive" aspects were before my Lord showed them to me. I mean, I thought I knew: I thought I knew love. I thought I knew faith. I thought I knew peace. And joy. And patience. Self-control. Mercy. Forgiveness. But I learned... in coming to know him... that I really didn't have a clue. If I did... it was barely a mustard seed. Now I know... but I still haven't been able to "conquer" as to any of them. So, he works with me. I kind of like that; actually, I am very grateful, if the truth be told.
When I was coming out of the WT, I never once blamed god and it wasn't because of my negative experiences that I chose to re-examine his existence. What my negative experiences did for me was make me promise myself that I would never treat another person the way I had been treated. Simple as that.
And that's totally commendable. I never blamed Him either (I was actually rather grateful)... and I made the same promise...
I also learned a fundamental truth that is in the bible - love others as you love yourself. We all know this principle but the fundamental truth I learned is that it's only possible to truly love others when you love and respect yourself first.
Now that one I understood before coming out; I was just confused as to why others didn't appear to get it (SA whispers: I am still sometimes a little confused about that now, when I see so many here... particularly those who have been out for some time, yet still don't know how... or why... to love themselves). I get that the WTBTS thrives on guilt and fear... and thus, perhaps some were raised by parents who used such "tools"... and so have feelings of "unworthiness." I think I differ, however, in that I absolutely believe I am unworthy... which is why I am grateful for mercy. But I have learned that worthiness has nothing to do with it. I get (comprehend) mercy... and particularly God's mercy... and I don't consider being a recipient of it... even needing it... it a shameful thing, not at all. It actually moves me to BE merciful when it's upon ME to be so.
But absolutely agree with you that you CANNOT love others... AS YOURSELF... if you don't love yourself.
The way I apply that in my life is to (as much as possible) treat others with kindness, compassion and mentally walk in their shoes - all the while being kind to myself as well.
Yes!
Too many people and too many religions leave out the 'as you love yourself' part of the equation so you end up with a bunch of people who feel unworthy, blame themselves, hate themselves and put that on the world around them.
Okaaayyy!??
The end result is negativity, fear, prejudice in all its forms and a tendancy to see the worst in people instead of focusing on the best aspects of human nature. Yes, people can be cruel and yes people hurt and torment one another in horrible ways. That's on them and perpetuating that because you've been hurt is only recycling the negativity - there is good out there and I believe there is good in just about everyone. Looking for that good IS a choice and it's a choice we have to make every day.
I agree with most of what you said; I don't believe, however, that there is good in just about everyone. To contrary, people tend to show evidence of just the opposite, given the right circumstances. However, it doesn't MATTER to me whether there is good in them or not: I believe that because GOD and Christ love me AND them... then I am obligated to love them. Regardless of whether they love me. Thus, I don't "look for good" in people - I truly take them as they come... and just love them. Anyway. Because I am them: there is evidence of the opposite in ME, as well! Who, then, am I to judge?
And some days are easier than others. Not having a belief in god or any other deity doesn't fundamentally help or hinder this process in my opinion...
Oh, I certainly agree that some days are easier than others! And some people are easier than others - LOLOLOLOL! But remembering God's love for me... and them... as shown by giving His Son... reminds me to always, ALWAYS... treat them as HIS sheep and not my own.
I hope I've clarified a bit more, dear Poopsie, and again peace to you!
Now, pass the Jiffy Pop, girl!
Your servant and a slave of Christ,
SA