Romans 3 clearly describes Jesus' violent death as part of god's plan to forgive sin and to justify his forgiveness of sin that took place in the past.
Lesser men than my Lord have had demanded of them... and given... their lives in MUCH more violent deaths for others, dear Cofty (peace to you!). So your issue with this is... well, interesting, to say the least. Man demands the violent death of all sorts of men... as well as women and children... for all sorts of reasons including, but certainly not limited to, their own selfish desire for power. Some, for much less (i.e., the "thrill" of it). Rarely is it truthfully on behalf of others (when demanded) and virtually NEVER on behalf of their enemies.
The Most Holy One of Israel, however, gave only One... and one of whom He was MOST fond. And not on behalf of Himself or other spirit beings... not only on behalf of those who knew of and worshipped Him... not only on behalf of some... but on behalf of ALL... including His (and that One's) enemies. Why? So that He didn't have to require it from YOU... on your own behalf... or others on behalf of theirs... which He certainly could have done. Because there is a wage (price) for sin: death. But you overlooked more in that chapter:
"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and it is as a free gift that they are being declared righteous by his undeserved kindnessthrough the releaseby the redemption that is in Christ [Jesus]"...
That redemption "price" isn't paid to God, dear one; it is Death who exacts that price... because Adham sold the right of exaction TO Death. The Most Holy One of Israel, JAH of Armies, could have simply washed His hands and said, "Ah, well... it was, after all, Adham's choice. His children, his choice."
I personally find it... ummmmm, interesting, though... that you take issue with the Most Holy One of Israel giving His Son... in whatever manner and however He chose and/or allowed that to occur... which He did out of His love for YOU... rather than having some feeling of gratitude. I know, I know... He didn't HAVE to do it for you, no one asked Him to do it for you, you certainly didn't ask Him to do it for you. Yes. Perhaps, then, in the end, it won't be applied to you after all - I mean, since perhaps you have no desire... or need... for it.
Paul describes how god publicly displayed Jesus' corpse as a sacrifice for propitiation.
It was men who scourged him, impaled him, put him up on that pole, and pierced him, dear one. The Most Holy One of Israel simply allowed it... again, for YOU.
Only a blood sacrifice would do to appease god's wrath.
You are in error. on two accounts, dear one. First, it was not God's wrath that called for appeasing: it was the price for sin that DEATH exacts. A life... for a life. Death was supposed to have YOUR life... and mine... and all of mankind's. Because Adham sold that right TO Death. He sold us into sin... and to Death. Someone had to pay the price to buy us all back, right? And we HAD to be bought back. But YOU couldn't do it. I can't do it. Who, then? That those who chose to put my Lord to death did so SO heinously is not the doing of the Father. Indeed, when he was to be disciplined for taking an illegal census, David chose to be disciplined by God rather than men because, as HE (David) said:
"I am in deep distress. Let us fall into the hands of the LORD, for his mercy is great; but do not let me fall into the hands of men."
Which is the basis for the second reason why your thinking is in error: the Most Holy One of Israel, JAH of Armies, stood out of the way and allowed what occurred with my Lord to do so as it did... to SHOW... just HOW wicked and evil man can be, HOW grave his error. Why? To show HOW righteous my Lord was in giving his life... and the Most Holy One of Israel in allowing such life to be given... WHEN THEY FORGAVE THEM.
I know, you only believe little bits and pieces from the bible and suppliment that with stuff god tells you personally.
Another error. The Most Holy One of Israel very rarely tells me anything at all. If anything, it's to listen to His Son... and it is HE, the Son (who is NOT God), who does speak and tell me things. However, not one of them has been a lie or error... and if you would condescend to listen to him as well, you would know that.
You obviously have issues you wish to take up as to the "hand" of the Most Holy One of Israel, dear Cofty. I would say that by all means, ask of Him as to the things you wish to know. Do as Abraham and Moses did. Tell Him to gird up HIS loins and answer as YOU question HIM. But take care to be sure you really understand who it is that you're asking. Because He will respond. And I do not mean that as a threat. I simply mean that with the same judgment that YOU judge... and you are judging... you will be judged. It really does work that way. Even if the one you're judging is the Most Holy One of Israel.
So, got a pile of stones standing ready? By all means, toss away. But don't be surprised if one land's in your own "house", at your own feet... or even upside your own dear head. I speak from experience and, again, bid you peace!
A slave of Christ,
SA