Twtich, I'm referring to the idea that they buried the body with reverence and gifts inside the grave, not the practice of leaving flowers in rememberance. There is a practice in many palces and times of decorating the inside of tombs, or example.
Well, I see your distinction now, thank you. I don't dispute the fact that more advanced ancient cultures decorated tombs (Egypt naturally comes to mind) But I would say the culture and spiritual beliefs of ancient Egypt and other civilizations of the time were more advanced than primitive man, whose beliefs on death we can only speculate on. How do you know there were human trash piles exactly?
But, to your point, we want to remember the dead because human life is special. If life is special, so is death, I'd argue. And, with death, suffering. In this way, a person's entire life could be considered a mystery, a sacrament, holy. The entire Christian approach is emphatically confirmed by the Incarnation, in which Being itself entered into humanity and experienced the totality of it: all the way to suffering and death.
Yes, I'd agree that the entire christian approach is based on reverence of the birth, life and death of one man in particular, more than any other. Belief in his sacrifice as redemption for us is a fundamental tenet of christianity of course and because of this, his suffering and by extension ours, is elevated to the spiritual concept of "holy", "grace" and other mysterious articles of faith. But only if you're a christian.
If we think human life is special, then we are stuck with the observation that it will, on late night, come to an end and that the end is likely to include suffering. It isn't obvious to me that we should partition a life into those pieces that are special (good times with family, climbing a mountain, whatever) and those pieces that are not (the things associated with the end of it).
It isn't obvious to me that realizing one's mortality is a position one would be stuck in but I guess it depends on the person and a belief in an afterlife. I'm of the opinion that accepting one's mortality only makes life more special, because it will end.
What is obvious to me is that human nature tends to want to remember the good and not the bad. Also, it's obvious that the suffering and death of a loved one will affect those still living, sometimes profoundly but probably for different reasons.
That said, I am in essential agreement with the original post, which compained about the simplistic and offensive approach of certain unspohisticated Christians. I am simply attempting to point out that these people are operating outside of the much larger Christian tradition. That tradition begins with the observation that Being itself assumes humanity and that humanity -- all of it, down to the suffering part -- is thereby mysterious, a sacrament. It is, as I have said, a point to begin thinking.
I'd agree with you on the extremist approach of some to the concept of suffering and death. You do seem to be a more sphisticated christian. However, if suffering and death are holy sacraments and thus something to be revered, it might be said that the difference between their view and yours is only a matter of slight degree.
Otherwise, I feel that we are stuck with the idea that, well, cancer sucks and watching family members die sucks, too. And nothing more. Maybe it works for some folks, and that's fine. But the trend throughout human history has been to go in the other direction and, in a way, it is the very definition of being human. We shouldn't be too hasty in throwing that away.
Cancer does suck and so does watching loved ones in pain suffer. As I've said, I don't see that as special or a holy grace; in fact it's the opposite. You yourself said the experience you had was not "good" in itself but that it's effect on you is obvious, as it would be on anyone. Is it because you put value on someone's life or their death?
To clarify, I understand your position to be that humanity as a whole has trended towards believing in an afterlife. Hard to argue against that point but not all of humanity has been or is spiritual. And the afterlife remains tied to belief, not fact, for all of humanity's history.
Anywho, tanks fo da thinkin bit.