2 Corinthians 1:23 Now, are you ready for the real reason I didn’t visit you in Corinth? As God is my witness, the only reason I didn’t come was to spare you pain. I was being considerate of you, not indifferent, not manipulative.
24 We’re not in charge of how you live out the faith, looking over your shoulders, suspiciously critical. We’re partners, working alongside you, joyfully expectant. I know that you stand by your own faith, not by ours.
2 Corinthians 2 1-2 That’s why I decided not to make another visit that could only be painful to both of us. If by merely showing up I would put you in an embarrassingly painful position, how would you then be free to cheer and refresh me?
3-4 That was my reason for writing a letter instead of coming—so I wouldn’t have to spend a miserable time disappointing the very friends I had looked forward to cheering me up. I was convinced at the time I wrote it that what was best for me was also best for you. As it turned out, there was pain enough just in writing that letter, more tears than ink on the parchment. But I didn’t write it to cause pain; I wrote it so you would know how much I care—oh, more than care—love you!
5-8 Now, regarding the one who started all this—the person in question who caused all this pain—I want you to know that I am not the one injured in this as much as, with a few exceptions, all of you. So I don’t want to come down too hard. What the majority of you agreed to as punishment is punishment enough. Now is the time to forgive this man and help him back on his feet. If all you do is pour on the guilt, you could very well drown him in it. My counsel now is to pour on the love.
9-11 The focus of my letter wasn’t on punishing the offender but on getting you to take responsibility for the health of the church. So if you forgive him, I forgive him. Don’t think I’m carrying around a list of personal grudges. The fact is that I’m joining in with your forgiveness, as Christ is with us, guiding us. After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief—we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! [msg]
Winston - wow! I just read all 15 pages of this thread - what stamina you have, and with what love and patience you reason with your Mom! You ARE getting somewhere with her, I just feel it. In an earlier post you said that there is no scriptural basis for the jw shunning process and you are spot-on. I found it astounding when, after leaving the mind-control of the wt, there seemed to be so many scriptures that I didn't even know were in the Bible - so many that the wt doesn't highlight simply because they are the opposite of what they teach. So many they just grind away on, usually taken completely out of context, as you well know.
1 Cor. 1:23 - 2 Cor. 2::11 that I posted above is one of those that jumped off the page at me, hidden in plain sight - and this is another:
- Mark 9:38-41
John spoke up, “Teacher, we saw a man using your name to expel demons and we stopped him because he wasn’t in our group.” Jesus wasn’t pleased. “Don’t stop him. No one can use my name to do something good and powerful, and in the next breath cut me down. If he’s not an enemy, he’s an ally. Why, anyone by just giving you a cup of water in my name is on our side. Count on it that God will notice. [msg]
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- Love and forgiveness, 2 of Jesus' most important teachings... the wt turns into hate and resentment through cognitive dissonance. You are steadily chipping away at their ridiculousness and soon your Mom will see clearly without the wt spectacles. Don't give up - we all once thought the same way about the org., and it was difficult and somewhat painful, but we finally did it!
- The best to you and yours - I will add you all to my prayers.
- Watkins