Yes, you must pretend. This is exactly what we're telling you.
more wifey issues. she seen my phone and this web site was op
by unstopableravens 76 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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unstopableravens
lwt: this goes against all logic!
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Tylinbrando
I pretended for 10 years in an effort to preserve my family with 3 tiny children. It came to a sudden halt when she asked for a divorce and swiftly married a much older man. Would love to have that decade back as a do over.
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ozziegal
My advice for what its worth is to be Christlike (yes even in the kingdom hall!). Eph 5:25 'Husbands love your wives as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.' Leave her salvation to the Holy Spirit whose job it is to 'reprove the world of sin, righteousness and judgement' (Jn16:8). Pray for her and your/her enemies.I will pray for you. Ozziegal
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unstopableravens
thanks ozz! dang man 10 years is a long time sorry dude.
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jgnat
"what do I do when she brings it up?"
I'll give you an example from my marriage. Hubby is desperate for me to say something good about the Kingdom Hall. I attend the memorial every year. The last time he asked (begged, really) for some small nugget he could share with the brothers, I told him, "It was pretty much the same as last year." True, but not exactly a ringing endorsement. He moaned. Did I have anything else? "The flowers were nice."
It is perfectly all right to tell her that you are earnestly searching after the truth directly from the bible but you don't want to hurt her. Ask her if she genuinely wants to know what you are discovering. If she says yes, give her ONE, I repeat, ONE nugget that would most resonate with HER personality. You should know after doing the homework I gave you. This is called planting seeds, and is quite biblical.
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unstopableravens
sounds like good advice. the memorail is the worst. the last two years i went in the bathroom to avoid passing and rejecting jesus (not the jw memorail counts) on principle.
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Ravens: Are you going to the memorial next year? Why did you go last year? I guess she guilt tripped you...
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Black Sheep
lwt: this goes against all logic!
It's a game. You don't own the ball, so you don't get to make the rules.
They will use 'Theocratic Warfare' on you. If you don't, you put yourself at a disadvantage.
At all times, you must think about how what you say will be viewed by them. The goal should be to get your wife to tell you that she doesn't believe the WT. You have already proved that it doesn't work if you try to do her thinking for her. Take it Slooooow.
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finally awake
Just Ron pretended to 100% believe the pap spewed from the platform and in the rags for 10 years. We had an issue back in 2002 with an elder who lied and cost us a business deal. At that point, Just Ron was ready to walk away, but I was still completely blind. He backed off when one of the other elders who was "shepherding" me made the statement that the congregation would support me if I chose to divorce him. He has said that preserving our marriage was his top priority and everything else had to take a back seat. He had no idea if or when I would wake up, and he was really afraid to try to push me towards the door. The only thing he did, that in retrospect had to be designed to make me want out of the borg, was to try to push me to be active in field service. I had been inactive in field service since 2007. I don't know the best way for you to proceed, or how to get through to your wife - I think it's a very individual thing, but I wanted you to know that there is hope.