by Chichi89 79 Replies latest jw friends
chichi...I've found an old thread here that might cheer you up a bit....it'll give you some food for thought about marriage too...
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/224419/1/The-Origins-of-Marriage
I highly recommend using the search function on this forum too...just type in anything you are interested in finding out more about...and you can guarantee someone has started a thread about it. If not...start one yourself.
We hear you and we LOVE you. THIS is your support community,
Welcome Chichi.
Now your entry to the real life begins. Your real path of learning commences now. You will rise from the dust of pain above the watchtower lies and then be able to see clearly.
You are on your first steps to seeing that Jehovah's witnesses DO NOT HAVE THE TRUTH. They are a cult. The treatment they give you is not what Jesus would do.
Disfellowshipping IS NOT in the Bible....anywhere. Judicial comittees are NOT in the Bible. The whole thing is man made.
Armageddon hasn't come and isn't coming either. It's a con trick to make people fear in the same way the JWs claim that catholics use 'hell' to frighten people into believing. It's all about control and money.
Take time out to read threads here. You'll soon learn that the Jehovah's witnesses are just another crazy sect with crazy ideas.
Ask questions.....plenty of questions.......
Regards Paul
ChiChi89>>>>>Welcome home here to JW.net. Where we all understand. We live all over the world, are different ages but we do understand what you are going through. We won't judge you. ((((((((((((((((((((((Big Hugs to you)))))))))))))))))))))
I wish we could meet up for coffee so i can hold your hand and promise you, life will get better. Just hold on Dear, hold on.
I live in The North Pacific and it is almost 1 AM. I must get to sleep because I have to get up early tomorrow. I don't know what time zone you are in, but I so want you to listen to the good advise here.
I must get to bed. I will say a prayer for you to give you strength and help.
Good night.
Just Lois
I pioneered, I lived as a celibate, I raised my daughter alone, I did not celebrate her birthday or my parents birthday, and that broke their hearts. But no matter what you do you will end up being condemned, made to feel inadequate, thats the methodology of the WT.
In my worst times of trouble, when my daughter ran away from home, instead of rallying around me, instead of coming to my aid, or even caring about my daughter, I was treated as a "marked' person for not fitting in to some WT version of a cookie cutter "happy wittness".
The congreagation is not a refuge in times of trouble, it is not a safe haven in a dangerous world.
You will find that the kindest people exist outside this religion, that the "brothers" are not your brothers, the "sisters" are not your sisters and that truer hearts will show up, and you will see that the worst is over for you. Be glad not sad. You will find peace and the love of God in places you never imagined. Take a deep breath. And start to feel the chains of bondage and cruelty fall from you. You will be restored, they have done you the biggest favor of your life believe me.
((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))
Be strong & my prayer is with you. No one should be treated that way.
Just remember that the apostle Paul was a very evil man before he got the real truth!! Why? Because he was blinded by the false teachings of his religious leaders in Judaism. Likewise, most of our brothers and sisters are following the 'traditions of men' like sheep, because their minds are blinded by literature. They do not examine the Bible for themselves because most of them are happy to be spoon-fed.
So, do the opposite to those who suddenly look down on you - keep your love for them, knowing that they are blind to the truth - being led by blind guides!
Each one will render an account for themselves. Be strong. (2 Corinthians 12:10)
Chichi - First of all - welome my fellow African - I am in South Africa - on the east coast.. Hang in there. Being disfellowshipped is a major thing, all the people we have known shun us and it can be a very difficult time. Take comfort you are among people that totally get and understand what you are going through.
Confinde in your boyfriend and let him know how you are feeling. Perhaps that new start should start with stop punishing yourself by attending the meetings and feeling those people judging you. You have done nothing wrong and are allowed to love whom you want.
Start expanding your views and going out more with your boyfriend and his friends, contact your former worldly friends and start socialising with them again.
Embrace your new start.
chichi, please don't do anything foolish with your life.
Remember you have two paths in front of you. Either you believe the Jehovah's Witnesses have enough virtue about themselves and about their doctrine to seek for reinstatement in the congregation; Or you decide to move on with your life away from the congregation, pick up your pieces and re-invent yourself, knowing that you can always have a relationship with Jehovah with or without the WTS. Either way, you need to stay alive to live another day.
It will get better eventually. Don't give up. Keep on loving those around you - eventually that love will return back to you.
Eden
Maybe God had a hand in this. Nothing happens by accident or by fate. Just pray about what God wants you to do.
