Mother Forces 5 Year-Old Son To . . .

by Zandor 41 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse

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  SanLuisObispoTruthSeeker

  The trauma of the husband cheating lowered or created a emotional-blunting episode, her mind was fried and used her son to attempt to humiliate her husband only creating abuse with her child. It's a text-book case of bringing your kid in while fighting with your husband or wife trying to get them to pick a side. The wife was messed up in her head, trying to guilt her man and tweak her kids brain for life, I think she had a mental breakdown.

  Is the wife totally wicked for doing this or did her brain freak out and do you find her circumstances should be weighed before judging her as a child-abuser? It's abuse inflicted on her kid but is she 100 percent guilty of going mental?
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  zeb

  Bitch again.
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  Zandor

  His mother is a nasty selfish narcissistic bitch who cares for no one but herself. M is basically unloved, scapegoated and used, his normal boundaries broken down early. No remotely decent mother would treat a helpless child so badly, set him up for the kind of failure he is now recycling in, then make it all about herself. The fact M's brother molested him is the sign of a dysfunctional toxic family and NPD 'mother, IMHO.
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  Vidiot

  God, I hate it when f**ked-up parents use their kids as weapons.
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  tenyearsafter

  Pretty ugly...and the young man obviously suffered damage from the encounter. I am curious...if the man was caught in the act, and they were at the other woman's house, how did the wife catch him in the act without breaking in to the home. In the U.S., that would be considered a felony if the intent was pre-formed.
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  Zandor

  She really had no way of knowing whether her husband and the other woman would actually be in the act when she surprised them. But she did go with the intent of catching them together whether in the act or not and confront them. She deliberately took M (five years old at the time). It would not surprise me if she didn't consider it a bonus to have the little boy witness the sexual act of infidelity in order to shame the husband. But, Jesus, what a terribly selfish and cruel thing to vicimize the boy even more than just having parents who divorce.

  I'm guessing that she, armed with the knowlege that her husband was in the other woman's house, felt justified and entitled to just open the door. I might feel the same, but it would have been something I would have done alone or with an adult witness, and NOT one of my children no matter what their age.
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  nonjwspouse

  I didn't read the whole thread, I couldn't....

  absolute abuse. That child suffered abuse from a twisted mother, and twisted family.

  It is no wonder the person as an adult was a very mixed up , confused, messed up individual.

  This enrages me to think if a child being subjected to such torment.
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  BackseatDevil

  Zandor, no offense, but when it comes to family issues+drugs+sex you're either the problem, the solution, or the conduit... and there is no way you cannot possibly be any of these.

  So... exactly how is any of this YOUR problem?
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  Zandor

  "Zandor, no offense, but when it comes to family issues+drugs+sex you're either the problem, the solution, or the conduit... and there is no way you cannot possibly be any of these.

  So... exactly how is any of this YOUR problem?"

  You wording is a little muddled, but the thrust of your statement is that I am either THE problem, THE solution, or THE conduit?

  Define "conduit".

  Since I was not present in this man's life during the onset of the abuse and ensuing drug and sex addiction, and because M came tumbling sideways into my life only 6 months ago, I am fairly confident that I am not the problem. I would be grateful, however, if I could somehow be at least part of the solution. While I don't find your question offensive, I do find your three options a bit limiting pending the definition of your use of the word, "conduit".
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  Bella15

  The mother was wrong for doing this, but your friend should understand by now that people do all kinds of crazy things out of anger or jealousy sometimes, some even kill their partners, but whatever situation the parents were going through it was not his fault, it was not about him, it was a matter between husband and wife (in that moment she was not being a mother, she was being an angry betrayed woman/lover/wife). Sometimes as an adult one needs to start putting yourself in the shoes of the parents in certain situations, and I am talking specifically for this event not the rest of the stuff. I saw my mom allways fighting with my dad's lovers, I used to judge this behavior but now I kind of understand her from woman to woman. I don't know perhaps if your friend for this event only could see he mom not as MOM but as a WOMAN that was being betrayed in the most awful way.