I agree. Years and years ago, when i was upset that my husband [now x] was made ministerial servant yet still heavy drinker, and not acting like the 'true jw christian ' we were having marital and family issues, so finally after months of being ignored, finally my x was asked into a elder meeting, [with the goal Im sure, to blame me.]
they gave us one hour after the meeting, both of us together , and 2 or the 3 elders who were there , were all drinkers. in fact one brewed his own beer at home, and two were motorcycle riders, just like my [x] husband did.
in one hour, I was basically blamed for 'making up' problems that weren't there, [because they had no clue what went on in our home none of them even knew where we lived] and basically saying i was the real cause of his drinking. wow.
oh ,what I wanted to do to them that day. after that, I had no hope left of ever being taken seriously.
[my husband had been drinking and smoking pot, even before we were ever married, my husband was 'worldly' when we were married, we were married too young, and forced into it through jw guilt.]
he never stopped drinking. that's why I left after 34 years . and he also learned just how supportive those elders weren't going to be for him, when he needed help.
shortly after that he left the religion, being pushed out basically.
5 years later [we had moved away] all 3 elders were asked to step down, the gossip was they needed to tend to family health issues, but I know it was probably drinking.
[there was photo evidence of huge beer kegs at a camp of one of the elders.]
still a mans world.
