Me, I was a very naughty cat and tried my fiance out before the wedding.Suffered through a very invasive JC because of my fornication.I was marked as I was marrying a non JW.What a loving arrangement eh?What a bunch of arseholes.
Problems of Dating the Watchtower Way
by enigma1863 61 Replies latest watchtower scandals
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quellycatface
And what about the scenario of the poor guy who really is gay??forced to live a lie so he can have a sexual release.awful.
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Vidiot
AndDontCallMeShirley - "Oh, the OGIB (Old Guys In Brooklyn) have sex? You are certainly optimistic. LOL."
I was being tactful.
I suspect Vulcans have better sex lives than the OGIB.
EDIT: Hey I just noticed something cool; "GB" - Governing Body, "oGiB" - old Guys in Brooklyn...
...unfortunately, once they're all settled in at Warwick, I can't use it anymore.
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Vidiot
dozy - "Nowadays of course with all the electronic means of communication such as texting, facebook etc I would imagine developing a relationship is much easier"
Not to mention that fewer and fewer young people raised as JWs are even staying in the Org, enabling them to pursue normal relationships outside of it.
I just watched the Carrie remake, and was really struck by the part where she stands up to her batshit-crazy Mom and says, "I have to try and be a whole person, before it's too late."
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ilikecheese
As a non-JW, the idea of not being able to spend any time alone with your intended before you get married is weird as hell. People are very different one on one than they are in a group. You're not going to know them AT ALL. And if you have to be considering marriage to even date, that pushes things through way too quickly. I just imagine on their wedding night, "So what's your middle name? What do you do for a living? How many siblings do you actually have?"
The Watchtower's general idea that everyone just wants to have sex all the time with anyone who comes with different genitals is super weird. I can imagine an elder saying... "I saw a plumber go into your home. I've seen video proof of what happens when a plumber goes into a woman's home. Do you have some confessing to do?"
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innerpeace
Both my brother and I married young to do things the 'right' way, resulting in unhappy relationships (and abusive for me) ending in divorce. Has happened twice to my brother. I think he will be steering clear of JW women now. I so wish I would of done things differently, like go to college, instead of marrying a JW headcase. Second time around I didn't give a crap what people thought, resulting in happy marriage to a non JW.
I don't know how much has changed, but when I was a teen-ager you weren't really even allowed to hold hands or sit together at the meetings until you were engaged. And the assemblies were like a meat market for JWs, groups of young people gathering in the corridor walking around, it was THE social event of the year. I hope things have loosened up a bit, but I doubt it.
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Vidiot
ilikecheese - "The Watchtower's general idea that everyone just wants to have sex all the time with anyone who comes with different genitals is super weird."
Authoritarian leaders unfailingly assume that everyone else is as freaky and undisciplined as - deep down inside - they are; the idea that there are people out there that are more moral and ethical than they themselves is completely foreign to them.
Haven't you read any of the stories about the weird-ass proclivities and attitudes of some members of GB1.0?
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Vidiot
innerpeace - "And the assemblies were like a meat market for JWs, groups of young people gathering in the corridor walking around, it was THE social event of the year."
I remember that.
The way the wind is blowing these days, I'd say it's still a meat market, but more for socially inept thirtysomethings who still live in their parents' basements.
innerpeace - "I hope things have loosened up a bit, but I doubt it."
Make no mistake; any "loosening up" you may perceive is an illusion.
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Vidiot
NewYork44M - "The problem is that the watchtower indoctrinate young men that the only acceptable place to ejaculate is in the vagina of your lawfully wedded wife."
And for the love of God, try not to enjoy it too much!
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Julia Orwell
My husband and I spent a lot of time together before we were married. I lived by myself so he would come to mine straight after work, have a nap on my bed, we'd cook dinner together then watch movies. No sex:we were disciplined. Of course being alone like that was a big jw no no. But we were 30 and 40 respectively, both converts. The whole chaperone thing was hugely insulting to us, and we were so glad to be able to spend time alone because you can't discuss sensitive relationship issues or even just interact like a homebody couple with someone else there. We got back roomed twice over it as someone ratted us out and I kicked up a big stink. But, with one month left til our wedding we just decided to meet in public rather than fight it.
We did however, be alone together the day before the wedding: how else can you run around and do all those last minute things? I'm grateful that we spent time alone as a couple before our wedding, just doing daily house things like cooking and cleaning together. And one day he came and spent an entire day in my house because I was violently ill. Good thing I wasn't sick at night or we'd have been dfd.