I gave up a scholarship to Duke.
What is the biggest regret or source of resentment because of being a Jehovahs Witness?
by stuckinarut2 76 Replies latest jw experiences
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Blackfalcon98
A full scholarship to one of the most prestigious Universities in the United States. The stance on higher education is what started my doubts actually. -
nicolaou
Unexplored and unfulfilled potential.
BUT, I did meet a special young 'sister' at a Circuit Assembly in Corby in 1983. We'll celebrate our Silver Wedding Anniversary next year. As two naive teenagers we may both have been planted and taken root in the Watchtower dirt but we grew up and out of it.
I tty not to live with regret and resentment but of course it rears up sometimes - that's when I appreciate my gorgeous Mrs more than ever!
So if someone could pass the barf bucket around ... ;)
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Shanagirl1
The Biggest Source of my regret and source of resentment against those WT freaks was that I trusted them, and cared about them. i did trust them so much co that it never once occured to me in my mind that a close family member was a pedophile and molesting my baby daugher that went on for years before she came to me to tell me what he was doing to her. He had also been molesting other congregation children and some of his own child family members as well as "worldly" neigbor children. As a mother I will always regret this happened up until the day she told me when at that poin i told her she was very brave to come and tell me, and I would never allow him to come near her again and she is not to blam for what he did. I regret that I had no concept this could happen in the truth and the believeing the elders when they told us "we were the only ones" and Jehovah was bringing it out thru us. I regret I didn't know at the time there were victims and pedophiles throughout the religion that loved blaming other churches for pedophile priests, and pastors. Of course JW's added a new slant to the pedophile clergy. They un like the preiests were incestuous too.
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mikeypants
Sports in school. I was pretty good and wish I would have been allowed to play.
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Xanthippe
Nicolaou what a lovely story. Congrats for you and your wife for your silver wedding coming up.
I also try to live without regret and resentment because it poisons life but it's impossible to get away from it entirely.
I regret that I didn't go to university. I'm sad that there isn't enough time to see more of this lovely planet because I pioneered too long and was penniless for my entire youth. I resent the strain it put on my marriage. We loved each other so very much but when you are both constantly stressed from the JW treadmill and battling the ensuing ill health it's hard.
It took eight years for both of us to get degrees and proper jobs and to start to get out of the WTS poverty trap. Anyway I am determined to see as much of the world as I can before I pop my clogs and to keep moving forward.
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goingthruthemotions
joining this cult in 2008 was the biggest mistake...i have taken so much from my children. enjoying holidays. my kids are young enough to change this. it will cause a strain on my marriage, but when i fully reject the cult. My marriage will be over! that why i started counseling.
i have always encourage them to go to college, they participate in school activities and both do martial arts as well as i do..
worse mistake of my life was joining this cult...if i could turn back time.
shalom
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prologos
resent that the enterprise we worked at was not the "truth", and is drifting further from it.
"truth" being the way to make the best of the cards that he universe has dealt you.
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nicolaou
Oh my goodness, how useless am I? I made my last post whilst half asleep at 7 o'clock on a Sunday morning. It's NOT our Silver Wedding anniversary next year but our THIRTIETH!
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adjusted knowledge
Not getting an education.
My biggest regret/resentment was not going on to College . I was an honor role student all through High School , and my Grandfather even offered to help me pay for College
took Geology in high school and did well enough in it to get a schoolarship. However my dad told me: "No no no. Jws don't travel over the world and miss meetings." So I never did it.
Education. I wasn't a JW through High School and I partied for a couple of years before taking ahold of "the truth" before I fell off the deep end. But the discipline of getting an education would have been just as good for rescuing me from my self-destruct and it would have opened doors for my career
I would say the biggest regret is that I NEVER pursued any of my interests or talents because they were "bad" and the end was so close. Now my youth is gone.
I was not allowed to get a college education even though I had a very good grade point average in high school
Not going to college when I was young. 1967 Awake killed that.
So many wish they got their education. It's not too late. Your youth may be gone but not your opportunity.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/288849/higher-education-some-ideas-those-that-think-too-late