Mornin Latte,
Your rantings are nothing to be appologizing for. They strike at the core of JW error.
Most all of the 'concepts'(not devine inspiration) of a parasdise earth, loving creator, pure and clean brotherhood, love of neighbor, et al....are each desirable. They had a drawing effect on people when CT Russell started preaching them in the late 1800's.
Instead of just sticking to Bible commentary on these positive things, Rutherford and those that followed.....expanded and defined talmud like rules; No Christmas, No Birthdays, No Blood, No No No....
Then to top it off, they were not satifisfied with pure charity of ones time and means to 'spread this good news'....they started to demand a quota of hours spent doing so, creating a hiearchy of self important men, to manage and account for recording the progress of every single individual 'publisher'.
To me it is this overt concern for monitoring each others outward (field service) appearance of godliness, that has created the atmosphere that you describe.
Take away all the record keeping, all the quotas, most of the unloving and judgementalisim, that pervades WTdom today....would fade away.
It is very sad that so many are duped into this mindset of 'works' as the only valid method of approaching their 'god'. So happy that their god is not mine anymore.
DannyBear