Cognac, I am so sorry he did this to you and that you are hurting. Rude, coniving, arrogant, thoughtless are a few words that describe his actions. Maybe he was acting out of concern but deceit is still deceit and it isn't okay. I'm struggling with my JW-crazed husband too.
edited to say: Oh crap, this is an older thread. And...that's enough internet for me tonight.