Welcome to the board, Mark. I hope you got a good rest last night (which is my tonight). Please try to look thru the posts and see that there are many who are upset here. Upset because of the policies of the WTS that have tremendously effected their lives.
I think that you have to be a parent to realize what it would be like if your child was molested and you were not allowed to warn your best friends in the hall! Or warn your other good friends in the hall this molester chose to move to in order to avoid you.
I think that you would be upset if you were a victim and not allowed to take the brother to the courts because the brothers didn't want Jehovah's name smeared. I am sorry, its not Jehovah's name, its the molester and that molester is not truly a brother, so I wouldn't have a problem. But elders try to convince you that its Jehovah's name being dragged thru the muck and try to tell you the molester is "sorry".
Mark, there are many people here who are JW's and others who are ex-JW's. I am df'd. I was attending meetings until March of this year. I regular pioneered for 5 years and auxilliared for 1 year. I was baptized in 91 and df'd in 2002. I was truly sorry for what happened, and no the elders didn't have several meetings to "help me", just one ...... then the axe. The elders say they try to provoke repentance, they try to reason and help the erring one. That did NOT HAPPEN. They asked if I had been going to meetings, out in service and studying my WT..... I said yes.... geez I guess that should have kept me from sinning.
Mark, you are young compared to most of us, so forgive us if we seem to "parent" you.