First of all you have to act with love, take your children to sports. I fondly remember how my stepmother used to take me every weekend to learn how to swim by the lake. I learned pretty quickly. The hardest part was untying my hands and getting out of the tied sack inside the water.
But seriously,
I got into an argument with an elder during a meeting because I would take my chilren out of the hall when they were getting restless.He said I was being disrespectul. I told him it was not natural for two and five-year-olds to spend so much time sitting. He told me I should take them to discipline them in the washroom. I raised my voice enough to be heard for at least 20 people and told him that as a teacher in the Chicago Public Schools, I was required to report any child beatings to the police, and I was not going to lose my job by protecting child abusers. I am happy to say that from that moment on the cries in the washroom ceased to exist.
There was one student obviously in pain. The rest of the kids told me he was beaten with a belt. His back and legs had the clear marks of the belt. He tried to protect his parents by saying that he had a roller-skating accident where a kid rolled over him. I reported them to the police and went to court. They received a one year in jail but exchanged to be on a probation indictment if they went to therapy.
Never, ever, ever hit a child in anger. A child will learn how to solve problems by what he sees in his parent. I know of a father who never hit his girl, yet when that girl grew up and had girls of her own she would hit them. He asked her why would she do it if he never hit her, she answered that her mother would do it to her and threatened her if she told him.
Violence creates violence.
Larc,
I would have done the same out of fear when I was younger. You acted in order to prevent a deadly situation, and your punishment was not extreme. No jury would convict you. However, people can buy some accident diminishing gadgets, like special covers for electrical outlets, drawer limiters so that children will not have drawers fall on them, rubber stoppers on the doors so kids don't catch and cut their little fingers, locks for medicine and chemical cabinets, barriers to rooms, etc. I had such devices installed but unfortunately my dub ex-wife would take them out and not replace them so the paramedics had to be called twice because they ingested chemicals out of the unlocked cabinet.
Trauma hound,
When I was a little child about 7 years old, my parents separated, and my father, (who only hit me once in his life), had me live with my sister-in-law, a psycho bitch from hell. She could have been the perfect JW. She used to take it personally when we did not eat the food she prepared for my brother Mauricio and I and put it in an enema form. She used to hit us with a belt until I realized she got a kick out of seeing us cry. I would then start to laugh at her. She stopped the beatings.
Meverginia you forgot about the group that's against women breast-feeding saying it brings pleasure to the woman
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I object too, on the grounds it makes me hungry too.
Rene
