Totally happy in your marriage? (page 4)

larc

Well,

Here is my take on this. If someone says they are very happy, I will believe that. If somone says they are "totally" happy, I have my doubts. I have been married for 38 years. We have had our good times and our bad times in terms of harmony and conflict. I really don't think that two people can live together for any length of time without having some conflict. I don't care if it is two brothers sharing an apartment or a married couple sharing a new life with each other. There will always be sources of disagreement.

Mulan

I "totally" agree, larc.

WildTurkey

Dede and I, have been married for 17 years. We have had our problems, but I cant stand the thought of being away from her. In fact, once when I was working in Denver, I had a airline ticket to fly home, and threw it away ($600.00, ticket) and drove home so I could be with her 24 hours sooner, its a 19 hour drive.

No there is no perfect marriage, but I do think you kind find someone you can truly love, someone whos smile never leaves you, someone you can smell her scent right before you go to sleep even when your away from her, and she is the last thing you see before going to sleep. Damn I sound like a sissy!!

COMF

I'm totally happy in my bachelorhood. Life's wonderful just like it is.

LyinEyes

That was one of the sweetest things I have ever heard Denny. You know I think you are too good to me, for I have put you thru hell over the years, not for anything you have ever done. Most of if was pain from losing mama, pain of daddy forgetting I needed him. You have always been there to pick up the pieces , even when you didnt know how, you where there. You could have ran and never looked back, but you didn't . Even my sister said you were like a daddy to her when no one eles cared and even when she caused you pain too. LOL you got two for the price of one. But you are a wonderful man, a loving father, the best husband, and my best friend. In fact, I guess you could say that I feel, you are a part of me. I heard it drilled in my head at the meetings all those years. .... "and the two shall become one". That was true.

I know I am like Denny for all those reading this, we sound mushy, and like everything is so sweet and peachy keen......... LOL it is not always like that, with life, raising three brats, I mean kids, lol, and just coming out of what we thought was the truth. It has been a confusing year, but we went out together and that is a blessing, at least we are still on the same page and will make it thru this together. But in the end , there is still no one I would rather be with than my Denny.

Ephanyminitas

Sigh. "I'm totally happy in my bachelorhood. Life's wonderful just like it is," says COMF. I wish I could apply this to myself.

I've been in one serious relationship, but that fell through. (Fortunately, though, we're still very close friends.) So I'm 24, new in school, and searching for my significant other. I really just left the Society, so I'm starting over. It'd be nice to find somebody that is also an ex-Societite, but that's unlikely.

Part of my problem -- other than the fact that I have no social life right now, and my extreme shyness -- is that I'm very picky. I think this is a result of having thought I found the "real thing," but having that fall through. After over four and a half years in that relationship -- and just as much time growing -- I know what I want (pretty much) and I'm looking only for that. I know what I need to keep me happy.

But I suppose it's better to just enjoy the time I have now to be single. You can't beat the independence, right? Sigh.

Since I was a child, I've wanted to find that one special person, marry, and be happy. I'm just wired for that kind of set up. (I don't mean to imply that I believe in there being only One Special Person for each of us. That's superstitious and untrue, whereas I'M concerned.)

So, special lady, here's to you. I hope I'll find you.

E (who wonders why Marriage is grouped with Retirement)

Edited by - ephanyminitas on 21 September 2002 15:43:6

Tinkerbell4125

CC and I are very happy. We have problems like everyone else, but I can't imagine life without him! We are best friends!

Lost Diamond

Dede and Denny,

You two made my eyes well up with tears. You are truely blessed! I believe that's what a marriage should be. It's when you really enjoy each other's company and can't wait to be near that person. It's when you could smell the scent of your lover even with your eyes closed in a room full of people. It's when you both bring out the best in each other and cushion each other if you should ever fall.

Comf,

I also agree that some people are just cut out to enjoy life without a partner, and that's great too. But I believe there is always that possibility that someone will hit you like a bolt of lightening when you least expect it.

Ephanyminitas,

You are still so young. Just look at it as a time to get to know yourself better. Your relationship that fell through has taught you a valuable lesson I am sure. Although it can be extremely painful (I remember my first huge heartache), look at the postitive that you have learned from it. Take that with you when you find your "significant" other. The good thing about our heartaches is that there is always something valuable learned from it.

jack2

The more I read this thread, the more it warms my heart.....and makes me want to gag at the same time.

Dutchie

Dede and Denny,

Isn't this forum special?

I bet you two have said things to each other in this thread that you've never said to each other in person. The written word is powerful!

My best to you both.

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