I could have the freedom to love, to choose to follow/deny God, and so on, while still having full mastery over sin. This, I think, is the ideal. With one exception, I would be free to live and love without risking eternal damnation.
The problem with trying to find an adequet correlation, is the magnitude of God. Some people don't like the fact that he owns everything. And, I mean that in the highest possible meaning of the word "everything". So, when we choose to reject God, who is good... we are at the same time rejecting everything that is, good. There is no other relationship that can come anywhere near the correlation of this.
Some people may feel that this gives God an unfair advantage in the relationship. So what? Are we supposed to ask God to be something other than what he is in order for us to feel better about ourselves? Then we would have the unfair advantage.
God is not asking us to be something other than what we are. I didn't ask to have a sin nature. It has caused a lot of problems in my life. He took care of that problem on Calvary. And, as far as all the screw ups that I have been subjected to by others, and the ones I am guilty of myself, God makes this incredible promise:
Romans 8: 28 - "we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. 29For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. 30Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified".
The bottom line is that a member of our own species, Jesus - God incarnate, willingly took it upon himself to broker a deal, as a Mediator, that is basically acceptable to both parties. God doesn't have to be something other than what he is, and we don't have to be something other than what we are.
He asks us to believe him, trust him, and love him. I can't always obey God. But, I can always believe him. And, it is because the New Covenant is such a sweet deal to all parties involved that I can for the most part enjoy the work that someone else has done in the past at Calvary, and the work that is continuing through Sanctification and the work of the Holy Spirit.
God is changing me while at the same time working with my free-will because I gave him permission to do so. It is hardly noticible most of the time. I did the math 20 years ago and decided that trust in other people was a recipie for diaster. Trust in myself was only marginally better. So, he's sort of the last to try. After 20 years, I can report that the plan works. I was a 4th gen JW.
I like the fact that we have gotten to know each other without the pressure of the punishment of sin hanging over me. I like the fact that God has worked with my intellect and desires to craft a redemption plan , just for me - so that I can prove to myself what is that "good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God". - Romans 8: 28
I have found the Lord to be very accomodating, and only hash on extreme occasion. It is acceptable.
Sorry to ramble on a bit.