I like being by myself
I Just Don't "Fit" Anywhere!
by pettygrudger 57 Replies latest jw friends
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Brummie
and I'm not flirting either dammit!
He is such a bad liar.
Brummie - I forgot until you posted - I am a brummie b*tch
Thats why I posted, a timely reminder if there ever was (yes, I'm flirting).
that's becoming a pretty crowded place!).
Yep, 5 sure is a crowd sometimes.
In all seriousness though, to be content in not fitting anywhere is a great sign of maturity & strength.
Brummie
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gumby
to be content in not fitting anywhere is a great sign of maturity & strength.
Brummie
Damn you Brummie......I KNEW there was something I liked about you!
I like that one liner......it made my day!
Gumby
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Maverick
I see this as a strength quality. Part of the reason I like to travel and work for the people I do is the fact that quite often I have their houses to myself. The owners may be at one of their other homes or out of the country. I may spend a week alone working, doing my magic. I get along great with myself. Many people are not comfortable with themselves, they NEED to be around others so they don't have to face ...them! The 'noise' drowns out their own sorry selves. You are one of the blessed, as are many here, that have faced that person in the mirror and come to terms with it! Maverick
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pettygrudger
Thanks Gumby!!!!
You all are right - there is a strength not only in solitude, which I do enjoy very much on the rare occasion that I get it.....but also in kind of floating around.
But sometimes, I think all wish they had that "core group" - you know the ones, they've known each other forever, vacation together, do things together all the time etc. etc. etc. The familiarity of it all.
Having had my family torn apart, partly at the hands of you know who, I have spent my adult life trying to "recreate" a family, with those of my choosing. Problem was, most already belong to a "core group" - so I'd end up being just a "fringe" add-on to an already select group. Now, I'm beginning to realize that was a gift in of itself.
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Vivamus
Life is good indeed
((((Petty))))
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And the world shall tremble in the wake of the Blue Bubblegum
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onacruse
PG, you're comments evoke strong feelings in me, and some not-so-pleasant memories.
I was always basically on the "outside" as a JW. Oh sure, there were parties, I was "respected," etc. etc. But I never felt like a part of the "group." As a teen, there were a couple of cliques in the cong...at first I really wanted to be accepted as "one of them," but after they rejected me (and yes, probably because of my own nature) I went into isolation mode. I think that's one of the biggest weaknesses I've carried for years: the desire to "fit in," but the inabilty to know how to do that.
Well, so then I found myself in this forum. I faced a similar dilemna: do I remain in "isol," or do I reach out and try again, in some very significant ways for the first time? Chalk it up to my utopian ideals, but I chose to take the chance and reach out.
I haven't for one minute regretted it. It's been the most satisfying year I've had for a long, long time.
Craig
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rocketman
I often feel the same way. Being an inactive jw, I don't fit in there any longer. At work, I am not part of any group that gets together, save for one lunch date every couple of months. I work in an office mostly alone.
In some ways, it's no problem for me, and I certainly don't pity myself, but at times, I'd like a bit more feeling of 'belonging'. Sure, I 'belong' here, but this is not the same as knowing people and actually being with them. In my view, there's a huge difference.
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DFWnonJW
....'scuse me ...pardon.... 'scuse me please .... if I can just ...... ahhhhhhhh .
<looks around>
That's better, this looks like a thread I can 'fit' in.
hope I didn't step on anyone.
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onacruse
LOL @ DFW