I Just Don't "Fit" Anywhere! (page 3)

Shakita

The only true "clique" I belong to is my husband & children - the most important of all.

I agree totally.

I have a brother who has a very successful job, makes loads of money, his own house and can basically do and go anywhere he wants. From all appearances he seems like a happy, fulfilled individual. But, the problem is that he has no one to enjoy his success with. He has said that he envies my life and family, and would trade places with me in a minute.......I know how blessed I am and would never give up my most important possessions for any amount of material wealth. Family is a blessing that no clique, job, or money can replace. We, both, are very fortunate people.

Mrs. Shakita

acsot

J6OCR9 said:

she mentioned it last night at the restaurant to Ascot & JH.

Actually, I think she said that you weren't normal a couple of times!! But from our conversation, I like your kind of "not normal", and I'm pretty sure I'd like Pettygrudger also. I too have always seemed to be on the outside looking in, but lately I've noticed that it's mostly with JWs, not others who are not always trying to prove themselves or keep from saying things that may get them in trouble, etc.

What's great about this place is that we find so many others who feel just as we do.

talesin

i know eggs-ackly what you mean. i didn't even fit in with the other jw kids 'back in the day'. now i celebrate my difference (if i was rich, they'd call me eccentric, but as it is, i'm just a freak).

signed,

'happy i'm not a sheep'

talesin

greven

I know exactly what you mean! I've always had this feeling of not really being part of any group. A feeling of always looking in from the outside. An observer studying others. like I am some sort of alien just looking at society, not being part of it. Using the system like a bus: I hop on and off whenever I please. I make easily friends wherever I go, but none are very close. I am introvert but not lonely. I can be on my own without problem. Strangely enough I like it! Maverick made some good comments on this subject too.

Greven

run dont walk

personally I think you fit in here just fine.

And you're right as long as you fit in with your family that's all that matters, because all those people in their cliques don't.

Guest 77

Pg, from these posts, were ALL not alone. I'm more in tune with Greven and Maverick. Maverick said, 'I get along great with myself.' These are powerful words. A desire to be accepted and wanted is the norm, that includes accepting and wanting ourselves!

Guest 77

Xandria

In a way~ it is good to be free of a clique mindset. But I do know the feeling of being on the outside looking in. We all want to belong~ which is understandable. Yet at what price? It is balance.

I value different perspectives and friendships. Variety is the spice of life. Lest we grow too comfortable and closed minded to new things.

We are all on a journey.. like sperm. Sometimes we get there~ and sometimes we don't.

X.

RAYZORBLADE

That's right folks!

Dunno what it is, but I've been meaning to get on down the road to Detroit, and hopefully meet-up with some of these funky folks.

Pettygrudger, all I know is, that when anyone has mentioned your name (via phone/in-person) it's ALWAYS upbeat, positive and glowing. "Oh Ray, you've got to meet her"

I've mentioned to a couple of Michigan xjws, that it'd be neat to hang out and get to know each other a little better.

Besides, being over here in Ontario, we're neighbours for crying out loud.

Hope we can all meet-up before the end of summer.

Take care, be different, be odd - it's cool!

obiwan

Alright young lady, do I need to rough you up a bit?hehe I do know how you feel, and I totally agree it's the jw thing. I don't have any really close friends, never have since leaving the borg. I don't do cliques never have never will, if you ask my fellow work mates they will tell you I'm friendly and get along well with others...for the most part.

I don't know how many will agree, but I think after the trauma of being a jw conformity is a real issue. If you ask my wife she will tell you I buck the system all the way. I don't just go and "make" friends automatically, I sit back observe and decide if they are worthy of my friendship.

Someone made a post on another topic and I'm sorry I can't remember who, but the point they made is even though they have been out of the organization for so long mentally they realized how much they are still "in". That goes right down to making friends, both of us growing up and being taught to loath worldly people at such a young age is extremely hard to deprogram as an adult, and very frustrating.

You just remember you have many people here who love you very much and do not like to see you so unhappy and down on yourself, it's there loss if they don't want to be involved in your wonderful life. be proud of the steps you've taken since leaving the borg and remember it will be a lifetime of defusing.

Obiwan

outnfree

Mornin', Petty!

I'm OK, You're OK! -- But we need to "do lunch" or somethin'! I have a small window of opportunity next week after I get back from NY (returning the grand-niece) Sunday night. PM me, okay? I'll make the drive.

out

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