by Xena 102 Replies latest jw friends
I enjoy having men friends and getting their persepective on things...lol ya'll really do think different from us
I tend to partly agree with what Dan said...I had a guy friend tell me that once too....I don't think it applies all the way around the board, but in some cases I do think they are just biding their time...not that they don't enjoy being friends but they are hoping for more perhaps at a later date...
But then, we live and learn, do we not?
Sometimes we do...sometimes we don't....that is what keeps life interesting. Not always pleasant to be sure, but certainly interesting.
My ex-husband and I were best friends too...I think that is the most important part of a relationship. I would never want to be in a relationship where I didn't feel like we weren't each others best friends.
I couldn't agree more!
The idea that men and women can not be friends with eachother completely ignores the lesbian/gay bisexual dynamics.
The assumptions are made that men and women can never control themselves, and that they are always attracted to the opposite sex, and that there are always sexual feelings going on (in addition to them not being controlled).
Being bisexual myself, I am offended that one would think that men and women can not be "just" friends. Then...who am I supposed to be friends with? Because essentially, anyone is potential mate for me. But that is not true. I have so many friends, men and women, who I think are really good looking, physically, but I never thought of them "in that way".
My S/O still has some jelously issues that he needs to deal with when it comes to my male (and sometimes female) friends, but I have absolutely no problems with his female friends. In fact, I am so longing for female friendships, that I pretty much trust him and them blindly...not that I have a reason to not trust him or them.
I think it's totally possible... I have a several male friends... we simply enjoy each other's company.... joke around and laugh a lot.. and when someone needs some help, they know they can come to me.... it's strictly platonic, and that's understood... some of them are my most cherished friendships.
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As a whole society also says "no". I think they can be but it can be hard depending on the people involved. A line can be clearly drawn and easily crossed. Jealousy gets you no where in life.
Depending on the age, yes.
Depending on the age, no.
I think there is no universal answer because it depends on whether you are male or female and whether you are "looking" or not. In my younger years I had many many girl friends tell me they liked me as a "brother", "best friend" kind of figure and in the end, each time I just thought "doh"! and became rather cynical about it. We had married persons reply to this thread and I think, of course they can have opposite sex friends, but it is different for a single person. And jwbot, although you maybe bi, your answer was from a womans perspective, being bi doesn't give you a man's outlook, as is clear from your answer.
Tink, I'd be willing to bet that at least some of those "guy friends" of yours are sexually attracted to you and are loser nice guys (see William Penwell's thread) who are afraid to say so. So they get what they can out of you (friendship) and fantasize about how someday you're going to make some sort of gesture towards them that tells them in no ambiguous way that you want to take the relationship to the next level.
actually you're not the first person to tell me this. i guess all i can do is hope it's not true, because i'd feel really creeped out if it was.
fantasize about how someday you're going to make some sort of gesture towards them that tells them in no ambiguous way that you want to take the relationship to the next level.
Tink probably half of your female friends feel the same way too, you're a babe.
I have several male friends of which I am certain of only one that wouldn't sleep with me. He's gay and way gay at that.
I like having male friends but I know there will always be some sexual tension. Same applies to my lesbian friends. I'm bi and there are a couple of my straight female friends that I've had a little fantasy about too but I respect them enough to keep it from showing. I don't think that's so bad.
So Xena I think it's possible but since I don't have a SO I'm not certain how I'd handle their jealousy. I suppose I'd be on the market for a new SO.
