Tink, you are such a flirt! Why don't you girls just get a room! Maverick Can I watch....pleeaasseee! I'll bring my own popcorn! Tink, you may be a little thang...but you are a HUGE flirt. (plus I can't mention what else you are)
Can Men & Women Just be Friends?
by Xena 102 Replies latest jw friends
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run dont walk
Damn right they can, I actually have more female friends then male friends,
and the only reason I have a lot of male friends is because of all the female friends I have.
Boy, say that ten times fast !!!
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Eric
Of course. I have women friends my age, (43) some that I have previously slept with, some with whom I will never become intimate for various and sundry reasons. We enjoy each others company. I have women friends almost half my age, one of whom in fact called me this morning to arrange a sit-down for coffee just to catch up and shoot the sh!t. Next weekend I will be taking a 20 something novice motorcyclist, an import to Canada from Columbia, out for her first blast down some amazing roads I know. My chances of anything more than a big hug are zero, because I'm quite aware that she is a committed lesbian, in fact I've known her partner for ages. So who cares, it's another riding friend for me, hopefully she feels the same way.
Last Thursday I went out to dinner with my best friend and two of his friends. His friends are a couple and my best friend is also gay. So what, I enjoy their company. We caught up on a bunch of things and just shot the sh!t had a great time.
Labour Day I had my friends over, good lads all of them, to watch the CFL games on the tube, drink beer, and eat anything that could be barbequed. I enjoy their company, and and good time was had by all.
What I don't have is someone who means anything really significant to me, not since Collen passed away. She and I were intimate with no committment and it worked for both of us so very well, until her sudden cancer went sour inside her body. It was so swift.
Thank goodness I've kept so many good friends around me, I'd have gone nuts without them all. Hetero women and men, Homo women and men, some with a spark of potential, but most just good friends.
Eric
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SYN
Hi Xena,
I wasn't getting p'd off or anything, it just seemed that us men got painted with a bit of a broad brush!
I don't know about other guys here, but like I said already, there are two categories of ladies in my life, and it's almost unheard of for one to change into another! That's just not the way it works for me...sure, everyone has fantasies now and again, but with some of my best lady friends, well, they're like sisters to me! And I have a little sister, so it just wouldn't be RIGHT! The thought never even crosses my mind!
Now, the women in that other category...LOL...! Let's just leave it at that!
The thing I love most about women is their completely different view of life. They simply see the world in a different way, which is a refreshing change at times. I find it most instructive to read the storiesthat I write for a woman, and then get her to tell me what she thinks about the events and characters and so forth. They have such an amazing grasp of the emotional landscape of the human mind...it's almost uncanny You go girls!
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Eric
but with some of my best lady friends, well, they're like sisters to me!
SYN,
So true!. A woman I had befriended some years ago asked me if I'd like to help out with the local amateur theatre group she'd belonged to for years. She showed me some photos and they'd done some pretty elaborate productions, musicals even. I said yes.
I was doing set construction for Niel Simon's "Barefoot in the Park" and the stage had to go up in one day. A lot of late sixties era pieces had been sourced that made my job quite a bit easier than it might have been but one piece that was not found was an old style steam radiator. Not just an adornment, the lack of heat is refered to in the play, and the radiator gets a thwack from one of the actors.
As the art director my friend asked me to just build a floor-standing 3 inch projection from the wall, 2 feet wide and 3 feet tall. I screwed the thing together from 2x2's and covered it in theatre 'skins'. (Imagine plywood made from just two plys and with canvas glued on the good side. Reused a hundred times the paint coats are sometimes thicker that the material itself.) As I stood back to admire my work, my chin hit my chest, "There's no way this looks like a steam radiator," I thought to myself, " It's just a crude box."
Even as I was wrapping up my extension cord, my friend moved in with her cart of paint and brushes. She started with a pencil and no more that thirty minutes later, she stood back to admire her work. And there it was, a trompe d'loile masterpiece. A steam heat radiator stood where I had left a crude box. To say that I was impressed with her at that moment is far too mild.
Later that night when she dropped me off, I invited her in for some tea. My place was vey small, nothing more than a cabin by the sea. Other than my tiny kitchen table, my only seating area was my bed, and that is where we ended up, sitting together on the end of my bed. The conversation took a turn, I leaned in, she leaned in, our lips touched, our arms came up to hold each other and we slowly fell back into my bed. And then we both started to smirk, our arms parted and we rolled away from each other to lie on our backs and talk to the ceiling.
"Did that seem just way too wrong?" I asked.
"What just happened there? Something should have happened, but it felt like I've just kissed my brother."
"Me too. But not my brother, of course, you have smoother skin. More like my sister."
Silly laughter.
"Well maybe we are brother and sister, but reincarnated." She said, sitting back up.
Not a believer in such things, I sat up and said, "Well it may be something like that. See you for dress rehearsal tommorrow?"
"Pick you up at five, no later" She said but made no move to leave.
We talked through the night and only slept a few hours, in my bed, clothed, and holding hands.
Eric
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happyout
I have had platonic friends my whole life, slept platonically with several of them, and lived with a guy for 6 weeks with no physical contact.
Can I say it never crossed their minds to take things in a different direction? No. But, I can honestly say, none of them ever tried it, joked about it, or insinuated it would be nice.
I love my friends!!
Happyout
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Xena
It has been interesting seeing the different perspectives.
Having just exited the borg 3 years ago I am still building friendships with both men and women....it has been an interesting experience. I never had male friends when I was a dub, with the exception of my husband. Actually we pretty much stayed to ourselves and didn't have many friends at all.
I have very few close friends as I still have trouble letting people get close to me. Thank you for sharing your experiences with me
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Aztec
SYN,
"I wasn't getting p'd off or anything, it just seemed that us men got painted with a bit of a broad brush!"
I was painting humans with a broad brush, not just men.
I'm glad you are an exception to the rule. I said that there were exceptions. Maybe you are more highly evolved than most. Maybe some day I will actually get to meet you.
~Aztec
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William Penwell
If you do have friends of the opposite sex make sure your girlfriend/boyfriend is in agreement with caring on the friendship. The last relationship I had, it was going great until she found out that I was still in contact with an ex girlfriend. I explained to her that it was only a friendship but she cooled the relationship off anyway. I thought that the relationship with her was worth trying to work out and I knowing it bothered her so much, I cut off the friendship with the ex girlfriend. It was to be for not as she broke it off eventually anyway. Although she didn't want me to talk to an ex girlfriend, she still talks to her old boyfriend?? I mean after all the crap she put me through and she thinks there is nothing wrong with talking to her ex? She was also so upset because after we broke up, I had reservations about still being friends with her. After a while if I can handle a friendship it would be fine but it makes me wonder how she can't she see the hypocrisy here? Its OK for her to have friendships with ex's but not me? Just little immature games thats all. Anyway I always say, I can accept most anything but just be honest with me. One thing I hate most is hypocrites and liars.
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