Can Men & Women Just be Friends? (page 5)

Maverick

I sure hope so. I would be creeped out if I thought the other gender thought only of me as a sex object...like that would ever happen! As a man, most all women are potential partners so I don't dwell on it. I enjoy the company of women. I like art, surround myself with it at home and there is no greater work of art than women. If a lady is intersted in going to the next level with me, I want to be surprised! It's a win/win way to go! Maverick

StinkyPantz

Jwbot-

I am against societies gender roles. Do not blame your gender an excuse for your actions.

There is more to it than "societies gender roles". Men have testosterone making them more horny; that's not all society, that's hormonal. So that being said, I would have no problem whatsoever and would not be creeped out if my male friends found me attractive, sexually.

jwbot

There is more to it than "societies gender roles". Men have testosterone making them more horny; that's not all society, that's hormonal. So that being said, I would have no problem whatsoever and would not be creeped out if my male friends found me attractive, sexually.

I certainly do not have a problem if they find me attractive, I have a lot of friends whom I consider attractive, doesn't mean I want to or am trying to have sex with them. And yeah I too would be creeped out if it was true that all men look at their female frineds as possible conquests or sex object. If I turned down their advances, would they not want to be friends with me anymore?

Robdar

Men have testosterone making them more horny; that's not all society, that's hormonal.

Then I must be a bigger man than most men I know because I am usually the lustier one. BTW, I have much less of my natural hormones since my hysterectomy. Before the hysterectomy, I was lusty too. I have just about decided that society's "norms" do not apply to me.

As far as men and women being just friends? I think that they can be. Sometimes it gets rocky if the male friend makes a pass though. If that happens, I tend to leave them alone. I have even had some troubles with girl friends getting drunk and making passes at me. I no longer go to pajama parties.

Edited to add: I also believe that former lovers can become good friends. Now, if I am platonic friends with a man and he makes a pass, it becomes too weird and I avoid him.

Robyn

Elsewhere

I no longer go to pajama parties.

Mmmmmm.... pajama parties... a bunch of hotties romping around in their panties bouncing up and down on the bed in a pillow fight. Just a matter of time before a bra flys across the room.

Valis

sp....I suppose women don't have hormonal urges? eheh...just kidding, but also wanted to make sure that was noted. Motives are sometimes as shallow as a tadpole's hole and deep as a dental dam...one never knows...both men and women are manipulative in lots of ways.

Sincerely,

District Ovebeer

Mulan

Yes! I absolutely believe this. I have several men friends, and I am close to them like I am to my brother. I know they feel towards me as if I were their sister. One was never a JW, and is about my age, divorced, and has never hit on me EVER! We are business associates and good friends for about 10 years. He told me one time that he thought it was very bad business to date your business associates. (in some businesses it could work, but in ours, it could be a very bad thing) He even calls me "cousin", and will introduce me to people as his cousin. He's a funny guy too. And Dave likes him and vice versa. That might be part of it. I think they need to know your mate.

Dave has nice friendships with a few women and I think it's great. No jealousy here.

DanTheMan

Man, I'm sorry if I've sounded negative with my posts, it wasn't intended that way.

Just trying to cast some cold light of reality on the matter. I think that young women can be tremendously naive when it comes to understanding male sexuality.

Tink, if you have heterosexual guy friends, the ones that I would be most suspicious of would have the following traits:

1. Lack of success in the dating/romance sphere

2. They are very complimentary towards you and seem to "come alive" when you're around

If they have these two traits, I'm not saying dump 'em, I'm just saying that there very well could be more than meets the eye.

Redneck

I think they can..My best friend is a female..Of course everyone thinks we sleep together...because lord knows ya cant be close to a woman w/o sleeping with her..The sexual thing well she knows I am a man and a hornball..but she is too...But we have never had sex...we talk, flirt,and discuss anything ..its nice to see what the other side thinks...It is fun to see her get jealouse when a woman flirts with me though....lol..

frenchbabyface

Is it possible to just be friends with the opposite sex?

When I was fat every man was my friend FOR REAL !!!

And how do you feel when your significant other has a "best" friend of the opposite sex?

I didn't care, because I felt like he needed it ... A friend is a friend male or female ... And you know what ? Even if he had sleep with them, I wouldn't care that much he would have done it anyway ... till I don't have to suffer about it (we broke because one of her so called friend messed up our relationship, calling me, coming knoking on my door and stuff we wasn't even leaving together my boyfriend and I ... that was too much !!!)... I thought if he is not able to protect me from this kind of girl, our relationship couldn't just go further (then yes ...It became painfull)

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