Can Men & Women Just be Friends? (page 6)

freedom96

Yes, it can be possible.

However, it does become hard when the two people are dating others, or are married to other people. To have a real close bond after the two are commited to others is just asking for trouble.

Aztec

I'm just going to throw out my hypothesis and see what it sticks to (BTW for the most part I agree with Dantheman)

It's easy for a heterosexual woman to be friends with a homosexual man. Same goes for lesbian women and heterosexual men. When two heterosexuals from opposite genders try to become friends one of the two has some sort of "crush" on the other one. No matter how much we think we have evolved in "society" our basic urges are still there. We are attracted to who we are for some reason. Even if we are just friends. I'll give you an example:

My best friend Jeff and I used to work together. We became friendly quickly and hung out alot. We are both heterosexuals. At one point we couldn't deny the tension anymore and well, you know what happened. After we got that out of the way we've become the best of friends. There is no tension and there is much comraderie between us because we know eachother so well. It may be differant if one or both of you is involved with someone. It's best if both of you are! But, trust me, jealousy is there for a reason.

So, to sum up: It's easy to be friends with someone of the other gender if, they are homosexual, married, or you've already tasted the goods.

~Aztec

StinkyPantz

I totally agree with everything Azzie said.

Aztec

My hypothesis stuck to...Bridget...oh my!

I'm not surprised you agree hon. I think we have a similar, rational view of human nature and behavior.

~Aztec

drwtsn32

I think we have a similar, rational view of human nature and behavior.

Az: Are you implying that there's something wrong with my irrational viewpoint?

StinkyPantz

Dr-

There is obviously something wrong if you don't 100% agree with Azzy and myself. . duh!!

Azzy-

I think people try to give themselves too much credit. We are only animals. . grrrrr . Even if two friends (neither of which or only one is committed) never address the issue or discuss it, I think it is most likely that one of them has feelings.

Aztec

Umm, no Doc, you do not fit any of the criteria of my aformentioned post. You are married. As long as your female friends are married or in committed relationships, you don't fit. My theory is based on two, single heterosexual people of the opposite gender.

~Aztec

ESTEE

Yes Xena,

I believe men and women are capable of meaningful friendships.

My reasoning is that if we restrict our friendships with just one of the sexes, we are missing out on an entire demension of experience....half of the population!

Even more than that....I am still friends with my ex dance partner in Saskatoon. I have talked with him on the phone since moving here to Vancouver. We feel an affection for each other. If or when I see him again, I would hug him, dance with him, talk with him, go to dinner with him....and now it would be purely platonic. It is because he and I both agree that our being together served a beneficial purpose in both of our lives. I figure people come into our lives for a reason or a season. It feels very healthy.

ESTEE

nilfun

if we restrict our friendships with just one of the sexes, we are missing out on an entire demension of experience

I agree.

tinkerbell82

i agree, estee. i love getting a chance to just be one of the guys ;)

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