It felt re- victimizing all over again. Am I the only one that feels that way. I question what purpose did this serve??? Am I off base??
This was posted in the abuse forum by me. As a fellow survivor of abuse and a receiver of this e-mail from SL and a poster of it here, yes, I do believe abuse is disgusting. I find it difficult to read anything about it but I get past it when it serves the purpose of fighting it. Many come here to find out what may really be going on in the WTS that may not go to SL. Abuse is disgusting, abusers are disgusting; but abusers tend to come across as the poor victim themselves. This e-mail illustrated how sick abusers are in their thinking and how any elder is not equipped to determine "repentance" on their part.
If abuse accounts disturb anyone that comes to this DB, then they should avoid the Abuse topic area and anyone who posts their personal account of abuse should be advised to post it in the Abuse topic area and not the Friends topic area.
If anyone subscribes to the SL newsletter and was upset by receiving this e-mail, then let SL know by sending your concerns to [email protected] where they can be dealt with directly. Any concerns posted here will probably not be seen by anyone on SL.org.
Yes I did respond to SilentLambs regarding my feelings on the matter. I did say instead of dumping a bomb to have stated the purpose of sharing this e-mail at the beginning. And what was done with the information that was received.
It's true I do have a choice whether I want to read on this site. I choose to read this post after reading my e-mail from SilentLambs. To check others feelings regarding this issue. Which validated my feelings .
I've talked about the abuses experienced in therapy and support groups. I took the risk publicly here to share my feelings. Whether those feelings are right or wrong they are my feelings. That is a huge risk on my part. I do have a thicker skin now I would'nt allow myself to go back into my shame. I feel for those who do.
Good for you for breaking the silence and having the courage to express yourself, even if your opinion might be unpopular.
I am not a victim of abuse, and so I was interested (and then sickened -- literally, for hours) in reading the Silentlambs post from the SL mailing list. If I was sickened, then I'm sure it could be triggering for those who did experience abuse. I'm glad you made your views known to Bill, perhaps he can add a warning in the subject line next time?
I also answered Bill's question "How Would You Answer" in an e-mail to Bill. AlanF said all that I said and considerable more. Excellent response, Alan!
I understand what you mean. Some added response should have been included, IMHO..
I felt very helpless reading only this account, and no included response as to what would be done about it..
It is a shock to our well being initially. I hope justice gets done over this email. Whether it is a hoax or not is irrelivant to me...
Sort of like this fool who planted box cutters on the plane. Stupid, attention seekers should get their due, as well. Nothing would please me more, than to have him or her, publically exposed for this.
Not to mention what awaits the monster if he/she is genuine.
