i keep you in my prayers, cas
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Going through a painful Divorce
by caspian 43 Replies latest jw friends
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Robdar
((((Cas)))) divorce sucks. Even though love disappears,the attachment that you develop for each other is hard to let go. Little things are going to remind you of her and do not be surprised at the tears that these memories will bring.
I wish you all the best. When things get hard, please remember that this is a new beginning. Right now it is difficult to believe that your life will get better but it will. I promise. Hang in there. If you need to chat email me at [email protected]
Love,
Robyn
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Special K
Hi Caspian..
Divorce.. is never easy.
No matter how bad a marriage can be, it was still an investment in time, love and energy. I don't think anyone walks into marriage with the idea that they will be getting a divorce.. except for Liz Taylor.
What I don't believe in is a couple staying together if one partner is seriously unhappy and have tried whatever they can but it still doesn't work. I watched my parents stay in a bad marriage and I certainly don't agree with the mentality they had of staying together... it was a horrible marriage not much happiness for the kids either.
You will go through a grieving period for awhile,.. and her as well.
Trust in yourself to make the right decisions for you and seek your eventual happiness. If you definitely gave it a good try it's better to divorce and free each other up so that you both can pursue other paths in life.
((( hugs )))
Special K
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Lutece
I just went through it myself Caspian and it gets easier, but you have to go through the process, no way around it. You're grieving and grieving takes time. Take good care of yourself, get to the health club, go out for coffee, take a fun class, enjoy each day and try to move on. It's been about 7 months since the final end and it does get easier.
hugs,
Anne
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Nosferatu
Yeah, this kinda thing sux. Try to keep yourself focused on the positive aspects of this whole thing, it'll keep you on the right track to starting your new life. The emotional shit is gonna be bugging you for a while, but memories and feelings fade with time. Not sure the exact position you're in right now, but making changes to your own lifestyle will help you recover a little faster. Make some personal changes, and try some new stuff. Fill up your life with new and exciting stuff! It'll keep your mind busy.
Take care.
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Sassy
My divorce will be finally in January (filed with the courts in July). I bounced back from this relatonship because I knew it was a mistake only days after the wedding. Only the elders slowed down my 'getting out'... But divorcing my first husband was very intense, bitter, very emotional. I feel for anyone going through a divorce. Just remember to take one day at a time, and every day will be a day farther from the pain and on with your life and something better. Sometimes we find strength we had no idea we even had when we go through things. And as you can see, many here know what you are going through and can relate. There are strength in numbers and you aren't alone.
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Odrade
((((Cas)))) thinking of you...
Odrade
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Jade
(((((((((Cas)))))))))
I went through it back in 95 after leaving the dubs. Even though it was for the best, it was still painful. Keep talking to your friends and know there is support for you here. Each day gets a little easier.
Annie
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luna
Yeah Cas....
I'm sowwy.....
(((Cas)))
Luna
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shera
((((((Cas))))))