I went to see my mom after 4 years, now I am sadder (page 2)

La Capra

Hey Fat Cat, you were so brave to go see your mother, knowing what reaction you could have gotten. As I read your post, I felt that there is some hope there. Your mother began to talk to you, and started opening up. This must have been the second hardest thing she has ever done (shunning you being the first). If you can bear the discomfort and keep contact with her, she may begin to feel more comfortable exercising "her conscious" and having a relationship with you. It could be uncomfortable for a bit, but it might be worth it to try for just a bit, see if things can change for the better. My mom keeps hers with me, and has no fear of reprisals in the congregation, and doesn't try to hide the fact that she does see me. Your mother would NEVER get the boot for visiting her son. Shoshana

acsot

(((OFC)))

You did the right thing. As already mentioned, kindness kills. Your love and concern will tay with her, eating at her and creating all kinds of cognitive dissonance. After all, according to the WTS, people who leave are evil, hate-spewing apostates, not compassionate and kind unselfish. Then maybe one day another little crack in her armor will appear, then another.

In the meantime, continue to vent here. And try and focus on the moment, stay in the present, and have yourself a great holiday.

Yerusalyim

OFC sorry this is so painful for you.

Sassy

aahhh orangefatcat, I am so sorry for this pain you have. More than anything, the division of what this cult causes in families bothers me more than anything. This is not natural. My mother like yours will never leave. I know that there is no way to look at this in a positive way, but perhaps if you focus on those words said that she loved you, hang on to those words, for I am sure this is hard on her as well. You said she did not shed a tear, but I have to wonder if when you were gone and she was back in her room, if she might have weeped as you have. It's that damn organization that is doing this.. and our family still brainwashed and stuck in, really think they are setting the example of helping us return to save our lives..

sad they don't know they are wasting precious time when we could be together. I hate that. We should be able to have our families in our lives to LOVE. This is so wrong..

PLEASE take with this ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))) of understanding.. and remember we care!

I am so sorry!

~Sassy~ (sns)

SheilaM

((((((((((((OFC)))))))))))))))) I do agree with LW in some ways yes you did reach her despite the way you feel. I also know that many times family is not the ones that have the same blood running thru their veins.

What I am trying to express is that your Mother does not have the strength to defy the organization. Many people don't have that strength but you do you were strong enough to go to the hospital and RISK the rejection. Realize they are the weak ones the ones that let life control them instead of they it. If you need to talk PM me and try not to let anything ruin your holdiay

mouthy

A mothers love will prevail. It is natural and strong. The "society" cannot compete with love, attention, and presence.

Not always Love!!!!!They dont have to be JW either .My Mother kicked me out at 16 because I was pregnant so we cant always believe the above.

But Orange I must commend you for showing the LOVE you have .I cried for you too. Shows your a doer NOT a talker!!! I must give a hug to your Hubby(((((hug)) thanks for giving my sister the "back up" she needed at that time. Your Mum cant help it darling--- just as way back when they threw their kids into the fire to show their god how much they "loved" him, your Mum is doing that also....It must break her heart inside. Drop her a loving card to tell her - of your Love & how it pleased you to hear that she loved you, just as GOD said we MUST do> Even our enemies!!! I love you so much Cat- because I KNOW your hurt...... You KNow !!!! the evil of the WT -the Nazi's shoved people in literal ovens the JWs just put them in "ovens of hate"(((HUG))

mouthy

oops dont know what happened to the above post it came out all funny!!!!

little witch

(((Lee, sheila, and mouthy))

Indeed. I know..

I saw a crack of humanity in what orange experienced tho.

So I just wanted him to know that if there is a chance to have a relationship with his mom, than it is worth a bruise. (Not a beating mind you,just a bruise)

I realize some relationships are helpless...I know that (I am one of those myself).

But If I have to go down, I want to go down swinging. It ain't over till its over.

simplesally

Mouthy, your computer must be demonized!

mouthy

Little witch> he is a she LOL >>>Sally!!! say it isnt so..... I dont want a demon in my computer..... Thank God we dont have to think that garbage anymore. Orange fat!!!! dry your tears darling we are all rooting for you.& imagine an elder who may be lurking here -he can see how UNCHRISTIAN folks are after swallowing the WT drivel...

I went to see my mom after 4 years, now I am sadder

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