Jonadab, if I was having a quiet, private gathering with "like-minded people" in my home, I would feel no compunction to go to the next door neighbor's house (the one with the noisy party and the hot tub) to explain why they're not invited. Now, you know you're welcome in the hot tub, but what purpose does it serve to explain why we're not wanted? Are you trying to make us feel like we're missing out on something? Honey, been there, done that, got the T-shirt.
Agreeing to disagree is one thing, but please face the fact that you belong to a religious group that has blood on its hands for the way it treats its members. I'm not disfellowshipped or disassociated -- I merely stopped going to meetings and, in the two years since I stopped, NOT ONE SINGLE ELDER has shown up on my doorstep to see how I am. They didn't come by when I stopped attending meetings. They didn't come by last January-March when they were supposed to call on all inactive ones. They didn't come by last February after my dad committed suicide (which, by the way, was because of the way the elders in his congregation treated him, but I don't suppose you'd want to hear that story -- might upset your peace of mind). How am I supposed to feel about that? Is that the "loving brotherhood" that's trumpeted from the platform? Is that supposed to make me WANT to go to meetings?
I know, I know, I've heard it before: "Well, I'm sorry that happened, but . . ." Until it happens to you personally, you will not be able to comprehend what I'm talking about, because you are programmed like a little robot to reject anything that conflicts with what you are told by the collective (i.e., the Governing Body, elders, faithful & discreet slave). You don't have an original thought in your head -- all of your thoughts and responses are programmed by the Watchtower. We were created by God to have free will, and I think He expects us to use our brain to distinguish between truth and mindless twaddle.
Sorry, I've gotten on one of my soapboxes (the older I get, the more I have). I really hope you do stay in the hot tub long enough to read some of our experiences and see if you can reconcile that with what you're told to believe.
Nina