Relationship questions (mildly long read) (page 3)

Nosferatu

Projecting ;)

Sorry, didn't mean to offend you Xena. I just find myself relating quite well to what Descender's going through.

Doubtfully Yours

Are you a masochist, brother man???!!!

Kick this wacko woman to the curb, and do it fast!!!!!!!!

Forget a stable relationship and definitely forget disgracing your future children's lives with this nut case.

WOW, I still can't believe there are men like you still out there, willing to put up with all this abuse!!! Then again you're only 28 years immaturely young.

Save your time, what's left of your sanity, and your money. DITCH THE WITCH!

DY

Is this still going on? Nos, Talesin, and DY are setting you straight bro. Get your head out of your behind! Who cares if she is good looking? Who cares if her father never bought her a pony as a child? She does not love you man! Nothing you do will change that. She may have loved you once, but it is over. You did too many things wrong and not enough things right and she has very low interest in you and it ain't coming back! Wake up! To late to get tough. Once a woman feels she has your number NOTHING you do will make any difference with her. Learn from this and do the right things with the next one! Maverick

PS to Xena, everyones experiences color their judgment.

Xena

PS to Xena, everyones experiences color their judgment.

no really mav???? ....but when giving advise to someone it is adviseable IMHO to at least try and be objective. I have basically given the same advise here as the people you mentioned, but I tried to temper it with a bit of compassion for another person who might or might not be hurting. It is interesting to see such a vast amount of that lacking here....actually more disconcerting than interesting.

No offence taken Nos and I hope none given either

Maverick

Xena, she was not the one coming here with her heart on her sleeve. I doubt she cares what we think of her. Maverick

Xena

Maybe not Mav....but dispite the fact that I am no longer with my ex-hubby...I still loved him at one time and it would bother me to see him called names and degraded by strangers.

And really regardless of who sees our words....how difficult is it to feel some compassion for another person? Not taking away from Descender's pain or saying he should stay with her...just showing some empathy all the way around...

*shrug*

Maverick

Xena you act all tough but I have known for quiet some time that you are a very compassionate person. You care too much and I would bet money that this "gift" has been used against you. You are careful and wisely so. You can't fool me. Your heart is so large it comes through your writings. People say I'm sensitive, I know better. I can afford to be thoughtful and generous and gentle. Because deep down I am none of those things. I have no wish to harm anyone, but if someone show me or mine harm and I get the chance...well... we all have history dear. My ex tipped her hand and she still has hands because she is my daughter's mother. And I loved this woman, so for you to ask me to show some feeling for this fellows wife....your dreaming. Maverick

SYN

Xena, I really do dig the fact that you're being sensitive. Maybe what you're saying is true, and I'd hesitate to call someone names just based on their actions as told by one person, but this story is sooooooo familiar...I've heard it again and again...the woman even refused to get help!

That I would've taken as prima fascia evidence of simply not being interested in maintaining and nurturing the relationship.

Relationships are about balance. There is very little balance in this relationship, from what I can see here.

And I know exactly what kind of person is being referred to by Descender. I've seen it before.

It's TROUBLE!!!

Descender, I think you should get a cat too...but seriously, the guys here are giving you excellent advice. Why don't you show HER what it's like to be on the receiving end for a change? Give her some of her own medicine. Cut her off PROPERLY - zero contact, for at least a month, then see what she has to say.

I'm willing to bet money she's going to be begging to come back.

Display some SPINE! If she corners you, tell her that she's destroying your life, and you need time away from this so-called "relationship". DO NOT let your words become heated. You are cool and in control the whole time this is going on. You are the mature one - act like it! Show her that actions have CONSEQUENCES, which is something it seems this woman doesn't understand. ACTION = REACTION, etc.

To look at things from the inverse perspective, if I were a woman and my partner started seeing other people then I would be mighty pissed! It's common decency, for crying out loud!

And if she starts saying things like, "I love you!", ask her to prove it.

That's when your life will start becoming mucho interesting!

This thread is so OT it hurts, but I guess it's kinda less OT because of the Witness connection. Witness men might be taught that they are above women and all that other sexist crap, but what you're never taught is how to have a proper, healthy relationship with a woman. This is where guys like Maverick and Nos come in. They give good advice!

LittleToe

This is where guys like Maverick and Nos come in. They give good advice!

ROFL
Sorry - that hit my funny bone!

SYN

Dude, that was so totally not a funny line!

Well, if I made you laugh, I reckon it was worth it, even if it wasn't my original intention

Relationship questions (mildly long read)

Share this