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  excuse the topic..............".Oral sex&q...

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  may i ask how people here view this???.

  i am 45 and have done it with my bf for the first time......part of me was ok part was not ok with it and i am feeling guilt..........

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  Therapists

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  i have found that therapists can cause harm ...often making things worse..... .

  has anyone ever found this to be true and....what makes for a good therapists?????????????.

  thank you............. cyn

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  To mimilly

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  i apologize......... i just now saw your post...................i am not too swift nowadays.......... thank you for your response i think it would be helpful to get money saving ideas ....it may even be a good topic here on the board...................you can write a book....or website.................one never knows............ .

  thank you again............... warm regards,.

  cyn

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  Disability ( a question)

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  is anyone on disability for a mood disorder ( depression/bipolar etc.

  and if so, how are you making meet?.

  cyn

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  Questions about meds and therapy ( general)

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  i am rather knew here and not very "talkative"...... i do have some questions that i hope to get some answers for....... #1. do doctors perscribe 3 medications at on time if they suspect that you are bipolar or do they begin with one and add on????.

  #2. does depakote cause weight gain ( or has it for those who have taken it )?.

  #3. what type of therapy ( therapist) is recommened for ptsd???.

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  Where do I go for help?

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  i have not told my story.. i am batteling depressions......and an abusive home enviornment.....loss ofcareer.......the jw abuses were the worst they went to the very core.... i went through a mjor breakdown... lost faith in god...i fear people...... .

  i have seen therapists...some of whom were not able to hel because i was still in the org minset..but after my own research,,,,,i end up teaching the therapists abt cults and hig control groups....... i am tired fo struggling.........if i see a pastoral counselor they will veer me towards religion....i used to believe in jesus before the org...i pray and see no answers......i have no friends......i have a siter and mother............both of whom help with finances as i loss my heath and career but they are pasrt of a long history if dysfunction....... .

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  HAve medications helped?

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  i need to know if anyone here feels that antidepressants help........ and what type of therapy helps with the jw issue and ptsd................. also does anyone know about bipolar2.....i read a lot through many years even while in ther org...............but i get so many viewpoints........some ppl tell me to pray....i have alll my life!

  many say use herbs..................................but am getting very confused........i have had depressions jw abuse issues...the crashing of my belief system and loss of faith also further abuse from family........loss of career.....harasssment........... .

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  why exjws have VEHEMENT disagreements at times

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  just a few thoughts..... i noticed that a lady named crystal posted her views.....and many people got upset....i did as well....part of me knows that taking responsibilty for my own life is important... and i have tried but also battle all my life....in fact i called to complain about the mail being late just today...and the supervisor's name is battle...to which i ( with my anaylytical bipolar mind ) reacted.......... i thought ," gee i battled allll my life but is could be taken as battle for youe life"... anyway....my original point was about why ex jws vehemently disagree... i remember when i saw and expereinced abuses in the org..and when i asked "sisters" and " brothers' for validation ( am i right or wrong?????

  ) some would agree then get frighetend and avoid me remember how we were warned against murmuring and how often so as not to appear unloving many people would use inuendoes or roll their eyes or play any number of mind games......( very loving that).

  expressing honestly and openly was , for the most part, not safe so i think that many exjws having been repressed as to free expression are more prone to let it all out... and disagree vehemently......... just a few thoughts.

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  laying a foundation

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  it is 5:14 am and i have not slept...my pattern of sleep has reveresed ..but i will do my best to lay a foundation for the rest of my story.. it is long so i will cut corners and by the ned ( if i get there) i hope that some people will remember most of it...i am hoping this will help me heal .. to begin with... i had depression as a child ....call it sadness..children do not have the vocabulary or understanding with which to label things.and they more often than not internalize and take blame for what may be considered abuse.....as a child i was rather aware and analytical.. this sadness came from my own genetics and living with an erratic ( bipolar pehaps father) and a depressive mother.....no one knew!

  i felt somethung was wrong but as i voiced it in my teens i became the bad one...dad was verbally abusive and mom backed him up due to her own" stuff" mom hispanic abd catholic dad was a non practicing jew..........mom was raised to be super resonsible and to take crap from her husband,,,her own father being an alcoholic,,,,,,,along the way many major family tragedies occured........mom was always praying and " accepting her lot in life"........ i felt a loss and hole in my chest and i asked god begged god to help me to be a father to me.......when we went to the woods i used to talk to the trees and nature and look up at the sky and just know that there was a benevolent 'someone" looking out for me.... as i got older i serached for the right way to find god....i felt that once i found this then all woud be well.......... i read about many "christian" religions read parts of the bible led my life like a nun.... i investgated pentocostal churches that are referred to as legalistic nowadays......( i am over 40).......i looked at the cathoilics even asked questiosn of a priest and he failed he test...........i ahd never been bapstized and i wanted it to be the absolutly right place.........as if i were marrying god............i am depressive posisibly bipolar2.....i have read where some illness manifest in obsssions with religious things .....( god ) ........perhaps it is so .....but so many i knew in various groups seemed to be sure and seemes to not suffer as i .........my mother;s respnse to me sadness was to take me to a spiritualist and i knew at that time this was like a pysch doc to her culture.......... there is more abt my childhood much much more....but i will end this bt saying that the stage was set for me to enter a high control group.... as my father and mother were both patriaachial mom being sooooooooo passive submissve........... just a note: dysfunctional groups ( systems) resemble each other.......... .

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  I am new to this site.... I wish to tell my story.

  by Cyn in

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  my name is cynthia... i have had depression as a child ( undiagnosed ) father was possibly bipolar and mother is depressive both undiagnosed.....my journry into the org along with how the depression became a mental breakdown , which i thought was jehovah removing his spirirt.

  my sruggle with the elders......and the many ways and people i sought help from.....well it is all a long story......... included in it.

  jws i have known with mental health issues.......breakdowns.......psych docs have had discussed this with........ i would like to relate my story.....i was so ill..nearly catotonic i did not go to a hospital but if i relate how i felt.........it was clear...... how i was afraid of crossing the street because the green light may have been really a red light and i was told so often by the elders that my thinking was wrong...... ie " they were showing love by isolating me ( a depressed person) because i needed to be active and i was not complying..they said they tried ll that they coudl when in reality it was i always i that reached out to them ( thinking they were chosen of god)...... well..i just gave a sampler....my story is very long...i have been tenatious i read so much ( even before becoming a jw ) about depression and dysfunctional families... i was a teacher did not gte my ma ..people here know why i am sure..... well...before i write this story of mine...i would like to ask..if i can do it in intallments........those i relate my story to say i should write a book..........i am not " out of the woods yet".........by the way.......i came to the point that i could not leave my room..... i live in nyc and i was able to speak to bethel elders including g. gangus.... i was very sincere......naive idealistic.............i asked qiestions thinking that surly god understood ...that my motives were good... .

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