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  when that gut feeling turns out to be right.............

  by happehanna in

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  i was concerned about my friend and worried as they hadn't returned my calls or emails, so i thought i would travel to see him, and find out if my bad feeling was nothing to worry about.. he had died and i will miss him, i knew, my insides knew and it hurts.. he was my secret and it seems to hurt more as i have no-one to share the grief with.

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  I am so sorry about your friend

  I know what you mean about 'gut feelings"....

  This board is a great place to post as many have experienced similiar things...."we are never alone"...

  hugs,

  Codeblue
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  I need some help. How do you deal with your JW family

  by Apostanator in

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  my whole family is in the troof.

  i am at a point were i want to present them a book on cults.

  i have nothing to lose as they have dis-owned me for years and have only recently came back into my life as a result of my moms illness ( alzeimers ) these people are driving me nuts!!!

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  So sorry to hear about how your family is treating you.I have been dealing with some shunning problems and I am not df'd or da'd....so I kinda understand the PTSD thing here.

  I think rereading Scully's post is the way to go

  Taking control back of your life is important...Your family is very toxic....There is a book about toxic people...sorry can't remember the title, but maybe that will help....

  I have had a few counseling sessions myself....they were wonderful!

  take care,

  Codeblue
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  Birthday Ideas

  by Aude_Sapere in

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  2. friends

  does anyone have any ideas for a birthday gift/surprise/whatever for a 24 year old?

  my brother turns 24 tomorrow and has never had a family member do anything for his birthday.

  i would like to do something but really have no idea what to do.

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  You can take him out to the restaurant of his choice and you pay!!! Guys like to eat!!! You also get the bonus of spending some quality time with him, and have a birthday cake arranged for dessert!!!
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  Ozzie's Weekend Poll #136

  by ozziepost in

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  2. friends

  owyergoin?

  orright?.

  well, it's sure been an 'interesting' weekend!

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  codeblue

  We received a call from the circuit overseer and a brother from our local KH. At the time, we hadn't been at a meeting in over a year.

  NOdenial brought up the the WTBS being an NGO with the UN, the circuit overseer agreed they did. NOdenial brought up they did it for "a library card", but we would be df'd if we joined the WMCA just to exercise. But would say nothing more about the alliance between the WTBS and the UN. The co promptly changed the subject! He left telling the brother (who NOdenial knows thru business) that they made great progress with NOdenial this time! (the circuit overseer had been at our house 6 months before). I don't know why he thinks he made great progress with NOdenial.....That was his last co visit.

  Since then, I know there has got to be at least one co visit with a new co appointed. NO visits from the co!!!

  Maybe they don't want to discuss the "library card"?

  P.S. Ozzie, how are you feeling??? Please tell Mrs. Ozzie, "hi"!
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  Ky. Diocese to Pay $120M in Sex Abuse Case

  by jula71 in

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  http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20050603/ap_on_re_us/church_abuse_settlement

  it will be interesting if this sends out shock waves and how it could affect the dub's.

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  When I heard that verdict about the KY Diocese, I thought: at least they are trying to compensate the victims and acknowledge wrong.

  I wish the WTBS would follow the Catholic Church, but then I guess that would be too "Christlike of them"...
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  My Mother died...

  by david_10 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it happened one year ago today.

  june 4, 2004. they say these things take time and that recovery gets easier as time goes on, and i suppose that's true.

  but then again, some things leave a hole in your heart that will never go away.

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  (((David))) so sorry for you loss

  My Mom died when I was a young teenager, and my Dad died during my mid-20's. I still feel like an orphan and occasionally still grieve even though it has been 34 years since I have seen my Mom and 20 years since I have seen my Dad.

  I remind people: Call your parents and tell them you love them!

  CodeBlue
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  Our invitation to our JC came today!!

  by TooOpinionated in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we've been expecting it since the memorial, and i was hoping it would come by registered mail so .

  i could refuse it, but noooooo, it comes in a normal first class envelope.

  actually, i thought it .

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  (((TooOpinionated)))

  I am so sorry you and your husband are going thru this horrid experience.

  Anybody with half a brain and half a heart should have been woken up seeing the Dateline May 2002 that exposed the pedophile problem in the WTBS and the "2 witness rule"....That is what woke me up!!! Hypocrisy!!! I only went in the door to door once after seeing that show!

  I can't believe it has taken the elders so long to approach you for a "judicial meeting". The sticker on your mailbox could have been put up by "anybody"....and they have no proof you put it on your mailbox, after all, they believe in the the "2 witness rule", right?

  I do like the response you sent:

  I'm sending your letter to our lawyer for legal counsel. We will need to arrange a meeting time with you so our lawyer can also attend. Please know that we will not allow our names to be slandered in any way that causes others to treat us differently, and will take legal action if that happens.

  Hope all goes well for you and hubby and please keep us posted with the response to your letter.

  CodeBlue
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  Hi you all.

  by chrissy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  new to the forum & simply introducing myself.

  i've enjoyed reading some of the posts here.

  it is so nice to know these forums exist for poor ex-jw girls that suffer from post tramatic sheltered-from-the-rest-of-the-free-world syndrome.

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  Welcome Chrissy

  Noticed you live in WA, do you live in the Seattle area?
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  If your mate, had an affair, what would you do ??? really, think it out ...

  by run dont walk in

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  toughest question anyone can ask, if the love of your life, and mate/wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend messed around on you, whether it be once or for years, how would you handle it and what would you do, think about it slowly and carefully.. wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.. it's said that 50 % of marriages are affected by an affair, it's probaly alot higher.. did you notice any affairs in your congregation ???.

  i look back now, and think, oh yeah there was.

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  I put up with a cheating JW husband for 18 years. I will never forget the first time he cheated, just before our 2nd anniversary. I should have dumped him, but I thought I was in love with him.

  We never got any "counseling".....which I think is very important IF you proceed to stay together with the cheater.

  ... In fact, a person should have counseling BEFORE they decide if they want to pursue the marriage.

  I feel much like Stilla, the pain has continued...but then again he cheated on and off for 18 years, once even with my best friend who also was a JW!

  I have since remarried someone who's spouse also cheated on him. He knows the pain that goes with a cheating spouse. He was fortunate enough to afford counseling before he met me, so I think his pain is less than mine, learning how to cope with such a devastating event. Even though we are faithful to each other, I have to say the 18 year venture with a cheater has still left severe marks with me, PTSD caused from a cheating JW ex husband!!!

  CodeBlue
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  JW love in action: JWs fail to inform me when roommate of two years dies

  by seattleniceguy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i was a witness, i shared a house with an elder/pioneer named herb.

  herb was in his eighties, and he had paid off his two-bedroom house long ago, so he would offer the extra bedroom to local brothers.

  it was a good deal, and herb got some company at the house, so everyone benefited.. for being in his eighties, herb was exceptionally fit.

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  codeblue

  It's too bad SNG but when you leave the rank and file (so called leave Jehovah)....they forget you....

  Just remember, in your old friends eyes, as he knew you, you were a special guy...that is more important then being told about his death from other JW's...Keep it in perspective!

  Take it from me...who lost a MOM at 14 and raised myself....it is important to realize that what you do is more important for the ONES you did it for than OTHERS that KNEW....even if nobody embraces you for your efforts.......

  Pay it forward.....expect no less........life will embrace you for it!

  CodeBlue