i will be marrying a df jw in just 2 months.
it is now really bothering him that his parents won't come to the wedding.
omg- not only is he df, but it's being held in a church!!!
Welcome!!!
Congrats on the upcoming wedding!!
You have been given a lot of good advice how to help your finacee, especially since you have never been a JW. Sounds like you are very supportive of him, that is wonderful! I am glad you have shown him "unconditional love"...that is very important to us who have been in a religion that wasn't full of the love we expected.
Take good care of each other!!! Hope you have a wonderful wedding!!!
Codeblue
we receive a letter from the watchtower yesterday.
thought it might be a card celebrating our disfellowshipping this time last year.
maybe threats or denunciations.
Very interesting news!!!
lol...wondering if they will comply with your wishes?
Yeap, they must be having IRS problems if they have to return your $5,000.00
Codeblue
No I don't feel embarrassed.
I learned a lot about a "world" within itself. I have great understanding about a "group" of people that I never would have before.
It has shaped me to the person I am today.
Codeblue
hi, i'm wondering what the best way to get over depression is.
i've been in a black hole for 3 months now and every damn day is a battle just to get out of bed.
i've been faded for awhile now and so i lost most all the jw friends that i had in that transition.
(((Descender)))
I am so sorry you are feeling so bad. It seems to me you have been hit every which way...no wonder you are "depressed".
When my husband left me, that was bad enough....I couldn't cope. I was working full time and couldn't sleep. I swallowed my pride and went to my family doctor.
Please go to your Doctor...he (she) can help you during this traumatic time. If it takes anti-depressants, so be it.
Next: Stop isolating yourself!!! Get a kewl dog, and go to Starbucks!!! People love people with dogs...Or just go to Starbucks....Have a hobby? Meet up with people with the same interest. What about people where you work????
Trust me, your life is just starting....get connected. Meetup with posters from this board that are in your area. Mr. CB and I have just started doing that and we are enjoying meeting people that understand "where we are coming from" with no judgement!!!
I hope you start feeling better...but please take care of yourself. Remember: You are worth it!
Hugs,
Codeblue
just want to welcome another newbie to the board!.
welcome jared .
you're a great guy!, hell you even came to my apostafest after only few weeks on the board.
Welcome Jared!!!
Mr. CB and I met you at Doodle's.....(wasn't that a great party?!!)
Codeblue
i have posted as each step of my exiting has brought new stresses into my life.
you have all been awesome in your support.
i know i still have a ways to go but many of the hardest steps have been undertaken... and i have an interview for a new job, so my working with a guy who is a jw, might be taken out of my environment so i can go somewhere that is not only closer to home (short commute) but also no one will know i was ever a jw.
(((Sassy)))
I have come to some conclusions that IF they have not ever been a JW they will never know how traumatic experience this has been in our life. Thankfully Mr. CB and I are on the "same page" with this issue. I can tell you that before I joined Mr. CB in seeing the "light" about the truth(tm) we had some very ugly conversations which increased my stress level completely, (his too!)
But seeing that your BF is not and has never been a JW, and you wish to preserve the relationship, it is a good suggestion that he and you go to counseling together (finding a counselor that is very familiar with HIGH CONTROL groups). That counselor can shed some all important reasons to your BF why you just can't get over the affects of being in a HIGH CONTROL GROUP and why it is a form of ABUSE that you endured and that it will take time and UNDERSTANDING from him to help you thru it. Maybe that counselor can give assistance to you personnally on different ways to cope with it (strategic measures that are personalized for you)....this is and will be a time consuming process.
I hope your BF can and will be there for you. I hope the best for you Sassy.
Love,
Codeblue
hi, i just wanted to know if there is anyone from frederick city in maryland please write to me a mail [email protected].
i will be very thankful.
teresa
Hey...I don't live there but noticed it is your first post here, and Welcome to the board!!!
Codeblue
are there times when you see that you still are under the control of the witnesses?
Like the others have said, that when you fade you are still under their mind control. I am fading also...and because I have family that are still active JW's, I have to act like I am as well. (I don't want to loose my family)
It is interesting to note how unreasonable the conversations are when I am with my JW family. The sad fact is: They don't realize they are under "mind control", I didn't when I was an active one.
When my rose colored glasses came off, is when I realized just how "subtle" the mind control was. That is why they need 3 meetings a week, to totally reinforce it over and over again, and why we were told "we must be sheeplike" to be accepted by Jehovah..(according to WTBS standards that is, so the mind control continues to work. Sheep don't question their shepherds).
Wow...this is all new to me...the pieces of the puzzle are still forming.
Codeblue
i just wanted to introduce myself.
my name is jasmin i live in phoneix arizona originally from san diego, i was raise a witness and at 16 i ran away from home and never looked back.
i was nevered baptized but was a publisher.
Welcome!!
I understand how you feel...although I was a reg. pub. for 37 years! Seeing the Dateline Special about the pedophiles within the WTBS made my rose colored glasses a bit smudged! The lack of love came later...
This is a great place for understanding "where we have come from"...You will find a lot of nice people here.
Enjoy your stay!
Codeblue
happy 4th anniversary jwd!
simon and angharad,.
love we have wasted on the way.. so much water moving underneath the bridge, let the water come and carry us away.. let the water come and carry us away.~csny .
Yes...thank you!!! and happy anniversary...
You have helped me in ways beyond words...lost and alone I was and now I have new friends!!!
Thank you!!!
Codeblue
