Posts by Phaedra

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Any here who didn't rebel as a teenager and were a goody two shoes instead?

by purrpurr in

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when i was a teenager in the borg i was a dyed in the wool, goody two shoes, squeaky clean,"spiritual " sister.

alot of my peers around me were rebelling and going off the rails but not me.

i was constantly praised for this and even felt a little smug about it ha!.

Thinking of writing a book about jw's, what should I put in it?

by purrpurr in

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i've just finished reading alan miller's "fade from the truth", i enjoyed it and i love that it's freely available.

so i was thinking of writing a book of my own.

not an account of my life but more a simple step by step look at jw's and what they are really like?

Phaedra

Seriously, if you don't even feel sure as to what you want to put in your book, you might not be ready to write one just yet.

yep

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What Happens To You When You Die?

by minimus in

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are our dead loved ones watching over us at all or are they really just gone now?

Only a few days ago I was entirely lost and without hope the rug was pulled out from under me

by elderess in

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only a few days ago i was walking around the house in a mindless wander thinking if i needed to seek professional help.

then i got the courage to seek the comfort of complete strangers on the internet and found a world of support here on this website.

thank you simon and whoever else has made this website possible.

Reading your story and learning how your husband responded to you as you lay side-by-side in your bed sharing the most vulnerable thing you can as a doubting JW nearly made me tear up... As a couple you both will leave together and not be torn apart and shredded emotionally over TTaTT like so many JW marriages have been.

Congratulations on the beginning of the rest of your lives, together!

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The Way JW Females Act

by LaurenM in

the more i interact with non-jw men and women the more i notice that i still behave like a jw woman.

when i interact with people (men especially) i find myself being super submissive and docile.

acting like i don't have a brain and can't make decisions on my own.

Phaedra

Hi Lauren,

Good input here - I can identify with where you're at post-JW, and have been doing lots of my own inner work toward being more assertive about my own needs and standing strong in my own space. Wanting to be liked by others is natural, and as mentioned above, understanding the limits to that will work to your advantage on how much investment you put into others over yourself.

Up thread, self-esteem and people pleasing was mentioned. JW hierarchy and forcing the role of the submissive woman definitely shapes and molds the female identity. Couple that with personality type and temperament in women who are more sensitive and facilitating/cooperative in their core means a lot of variations on this theme exist.

Your biggest strength is in recognizing what's currently going on with you. Now you can acknowledge where some of that came from and work towards changing patterns that no longer fit. We're all beautifully complex human beings and one size doesn't fit all in the way we work our way through these things.

Thank you for posting this.

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What's the point?

by punkofnice in

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i mean, i don't want to be miserable or anything, but what's the bloody point of it all?.

since i left the watchtower cult, i have come to realise that god cannot possibly exist...and if a god exists...god is indifferent to humankind as the least.. in 100 years time i'll be gone.

kaput.

Phaedra

Cofty, thanks for your thoughts

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A list of top You tubers out there worth visiting, please add yours.

by pleaseresearch in

i'm an unbelieving but baptised jw.

i woke up to ttatt around 4 years ago.

i haven't been regular to meetings for nearly 10 years.

Phaedra

JT and Lady C from this site
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpHhWSPtMDTSa8dzapmzo5A
ExJW Critical Thinker

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What's the point?

by punkofnice in

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i mean, i don't want to be miserable or anything, but what's the bloody point of it all?.

since i left the watchtower cult, i have come to realise that god cannot possibly exist...and if a god exists...god is indifferent to humankind as the least.. in 100 years time i'll be gone.

kaput.

Phaedra

Punk,

Sorry, my last post was bleak. Your posts always touch me where it hurts. Then I leak. Sorry for that.

I used to be wide-eyed and full of wonder. Now each day is a challenge to find reasons to go on. It's hard. So hard I shouldn't comment in suicide threads. Sorry to you and anyone else that I've added pain to.

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What's the point?

by punkofnice in

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i mean, i don't want to be miserable or anything, but what's the bloody point of it all?.

since i left the watchtower cult, i have come to realise that god cannot possibly exist...and if a god exists...god is indifferent to humankind as the least.. in 100 years time i'll be gone.

kaput.

Phaedra

I couldn't commit suicide (although, I've tried before), I don't wanna die.................what's the bloody point to anything? It's all so futile. Transient. Always ends in tears.

I'm fine with going to sleep and not waking up. no tears.

When you start learning about how worse it is in other countries who don't give a fuck about running over people with cars, and backing up to be sure they're dead because it's better in the "justice" system to kill instead of maim (China) and human trafficking of children for sex, it's easy to get in the line for a ticket out. I don't want anything to do with this world. Fuck it.

My first world comforts don't make up for the 8-yearod sold off in some third-world country who never has a chance at anything. I'd rather not be here. You with your money and smartphones and high-paying jobs on the backs of others yeah, you got yours. Kill me now so I don't have to turn my head anymore to the suffering of other human beings and beautiful creatures that exist and get in the way of profiteers.

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Evolution, fine. Still a missiion....

by Phaedra in

i buy into the theory of evolution.. where does it's "mission" to do what it does (programming) come from?.

Phaedra

Ok. Let me find that book and I'll revisit this after.

Thanks Cofty and others for your thoughts on this.