Phaedra

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  Beware of Mediums

  by Splash in

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  from 1920 wt publication "talking with the dead":.

  p. 116 materializations.

  "these materializations occur by a power which the demons posess of being able to draw out of the mediums body connected streams of the cells of which her body is composed, and then changing the form of these living cells into any desired appearance.

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  Beware of Mediums

  ...yeah, the sizing from different clothing manufacturers doesn't always equal the labeled size you think you're getting on that new t-shirt Mediums can go either way...

  Phlae
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  OK..Seriously..Has GOD ever answered your prayers????

  by DATA-DOG in

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  look...i am not an atheist.

  even so, i have never had one prayer answered my entire life.

  the only thing that would even come close was learning ttatt.

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  Re: OK..Seriously..Has GOD ever answered your prayers????

  I have no idea. But I'm leaning to "probably not."

  Phae
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  What do you do when your job makes you wanna puke your face off?

  by Julia Orwell in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm talking like makes you physically sick and emotionally frazzled just thinking about it.

  i'm talking like you hate it to the point you'd rather go without than work at it just for the money.

  you'd live on cheap korean packet noodles for the next year instead of exchanging your labor for this job's money.. well, this is how i feel about teaching and tutoring.

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  Re: What do you do when your job makes you wanna puke your face off?

  1. Take care of self.
  2. Purge.
  3. Leave job & find another.

  Not necessarily in that order.

  Life is too short to put up with job-puking BS for too long.

  Phae
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  Putting on the NEW "New Personality"

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  we have often heard about the need to "put on the 'new personality'" as a jw.... but i have realised something in these last few years of awakening to the ttatt...i dont like what i had become as a 'good' jw!.

  i realised that being a 'good' jw made me very:.

  critical of my fellow man,.

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  Stuck,

  Great reflection. As a raised-in, I never knew what my "original personality" was (or did it even really develop?), and so when I left the JWs in my late-20s I was very confused about where they ended and I began. How do you know who you ARE when you don't know anything else except what you've been programmed with during your formative years in the JW world?

  Along with some of the things you've mentioned, I suspect some of the unwanted traits that I've been afflicted with (and ernestly working through and healing from) have been greatly influenced/caused by growing up in the JW culture:

  • social phobia
  • perfectionism
  • neuroticism
  • depression
  • irrational fear
  • not-good-enough-ism
  • fatalism
  • codependant

  A far cry from the fruitage of the spirit.

  Phae
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  Is my clinging on to a belief in a Creator doing me any harm?

  by KateWild in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i use the word clinging, as i feel that is what i am doing.

  as far as my knowledge of science, namely chemistry is concerned, i am satisfied there is evidence of a creator.

  i am happy to believe this.

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  Hi Kate,

  I like how you think about things.

  Phae
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  Interview with cultBgone

  by cultBgone in

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  2. experiences

  tell us a little about yourself and your family.. can't, have family still in.

  were you a born in or a convert?.

  convert.

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  Hi cBg,

  Enjoyed reading this~thanks for sharing!

  Phae
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  DF'ed and Confused...

  by Stumbeline in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so i think the title pretty much says it all.

  i have a tendancy to be long winded about things, so i'll just give a general introduction and maybe tell things as i go along.

  i don't even really know what i want from this site (ironically i remember jehovahs-witness.net mentioned from the platform as a site not to go to).

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  Stumbeline,

  Enamoured by your first post. I do hope you come back to see all of this good advice and well-wishing!

  At 19 I married my JW hubby. You are in a prime position right now with your thinking ability, youth, and energy.

  The world is your oyster... go make pearls, girl!

  Phae
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  My first post: Pet Peeves from my JW past

  by BarHarborBarbara in

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  2. friends

  first post here: longtime lurker but hesitant to take the leap.

  my story is pretty much like everyone elses with little variance, but i thought id add a few details that especially tormented me when i was in.

  im sure these are familiar, im afraid this is a bit of a rant.. --paradise: the constant chatter about a perfect world when most in the hall were not even slightly interested in taking care of the earth now.

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  Welcome, BarHarborBarbara! Thanks for sharing your experiences.

  I was even GLAD because it meant less time facing a door and trying to explain why I was invading their space and putting the householder on the spot for their personal convictions.

  That SO describes how I felt about d2d work!

  Funny you mention car groups. I remember as a young teen at a circuit assembly, there was a scenario onstage during one of the talks that depicted four sisters in a car group. The four chairs on stage were arraged like car seats. As the sisters sat and gabbed in the car on the way to the territory, one of them started bemoaning how people in the territory just weren't interested and it felt like a waste of time, etc.

  The point of the skit was to not talk negative/voice discouragement, etc. in car groups because it wasn't uplifting.

  As impressionable as I was, my takeaways from that skit were:

  1. Since that was the first time I had EVER seen/heard someone being negative about service (hadn't ever been in a cargroup where people were misbehavin'), my eyes were open to people in the congregation who were not all happy/perfect in the org.
  2. Planted subconsciously was that it was not okay to express your true feelings in front of other JWs unless it was something positive and upbuilding. Which translated into personal reservations / feelings that went against the current = something wrong with you.

  Phae
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  How did you tell your spouse you want out of the JW religion?

  by leaving_quietly in

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  2. experiences

  what did you imagine would happen?

  did they react the way you expected?

  how did you bring it up?.

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  It was a gradual process over a few years.

  I was already in an unintentional fade when I started having doubts.

  When I got online and learned TTATT, for some odd reason, I thought the stimulating articles and posts and paragraphs from COC would be as interesting to my JW husband as they were me. Not so.

  He was on and off inactive, but always found resolve to explain away and rationalize and conclude that those who left were just twisting thing in favor of their own agenda, etc.

  What I found strengthened my resolve... and his, I suppose.

  He knows I don't want anything to do with being a JW, but hopes I'll come to my senses and come back.

  I don't share stuff with him anymore.

  We live and let live. I think him not being hardcore helps a lot.

  Phae
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  7 Things Remarkably Happy People Do Often

  by Oubliette in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i came across this article today and really appreciated it's positive message; and so i wanted to share a few choice excerpts that i thought were particularly relevant for this group:.

  7 things remarkably happy people do often1.

  make good friends - make real friends.

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  Phaedra

  Thanks for sharing!

  Phae