Posts by pudd

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policy changed?

by pudd in

please forgive my ignorance on this matter, but i have been informed that the society have now changed their polices on accusations of child abuse and now will go to the police if there are any allegations made.

even without the 2-witness thing.

if this is true it takes nothing away from their past guilt but i was wondering if it is actually the case that the rules have changed or was i being fobbed off?

pudd

They go to the police ONLY if that particular state demands that they do.........and the society's Legal Dept. tells them to.

Yes I remember that now from when I first started reserching this.

Sorry I forgot that the rules are different depending on where you live.

In the U.K. I believe the policy was that a person had "the absolute right" to go to the police, now I am being told that they have the "absolute responsability" to do so.

The trouble is, even if this is true, (which I am still unsure about) I do know that not all elders are aware of it.

I have found over and over again that it all depends who you ask as to what answer you get!

Even though I no longer take my children to meetings(or go myself!) I still worry about the many children who are still at risk. That is why I keep an eye on the developments.

I am also wondering if the elder who told me this change had taken place was just trying to get me back to meetings.

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policy changed?

by pudd in

please forgive my ignorance on this matter, but i have been informed that the society have now changed their polices on accusations of child abuse and now will go to the police if there are any allegations made.

even without the 2-witness thing.

if this is true it takes nothing away from their past guilt but i was wondering if it is actually the case that the rules have changed or was i being fobbed off?

pudd

Please forgive my ignorance on this matter, but I have been informed that the society have now changed their polices on accusations of child abuse and now will go to the police if there are any allegations made. Even without the 2-witness thing.

If this is true it takes nothing away from their past guilt but I was wondering if it is actually the case that the rules have changed or was I being fobbed off?

Thanks

Pudd

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hi all

by shadows in

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friends

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just want to know if thils is for jw's or ex-jw's?.

shadows

pudd

hi shadows,

welcome.

I guess you have had your question answered about who we are, just wondererd about you? you didn't say if you were still a witness or not.

personaly I am inactive, fading, confused....

but as others have said all are welcome here, and its a great place.

hope you stick around.

pudd xxx

11

Death of a child

by wtphobic in

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what kind of person tells his non jw granddaughter that the death of her infant son is a "sign of the times"?

i don't know his staus in the org, but i know that "the pressure" is now on to convince her of the error of her ways- even been suggested that had she been a jw- this might not happen....unbelieveable- please- help me understand the twisted jw stand on death and dying and grieving

pudd

I am so sorry to hear of this.

regardless of how wrong the organization may be, I think it was a particularly insensitive stupid person that would say such a thing. I know rather too many of that kind myself but I still like to believe that most witnesses would be a little more caring.

very sorry to hear about the loss of the child

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My blood boiled!

by baysixforme in

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where shall i begin?

i once spent some time living in a womens refuge with my four children escaping from the domestic violence and emotional abuse that my husband deemed to be appropriate to bestow upon us.

apparently he had the blessing of my congregation to do so.

pudd

welcome Baysixforme,

hope you find support and encouragement here, as I have.

you have my deepest respect for getting yourself and your children out of an abusive relationship.

good luck with your studies!

pudd xxx

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Just me???

by FMZ in

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is it just me, or does anyone else sit at their desk, and keep hitting "refresh" on the active topics page?.

lonely futher mucker

pudd

I will post a pic of myself this weekend... I may even change my avatar...
FMZ

Yes please! I can't even look at that pic, I would have nightmares!

Too scary for me!

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Strange picture in this week's Watchtower on porneia?

by eyeslice in

link to picture: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/file/7d83e711-da29-44aa-bde7-f74f9a3d79bd.ashx.

the following caption appeared opposite the paragraph porneia (quote: "porneia includes such acts as oral sex, anal sex, and masterbating another person") what can happen if we ignore warnings?.

now is it just me, but isn't the picture of the little boy trying to rescue his ball from out of a pond just a little weird?

pudd

"paedophiles like pictures of little boys reaching for balls...."

[Choked on my bacon laughing]

Sorry, but I don't find that at all amusing.

I agree with the original point about not letting a young child near water, but I think the jokes about child abuse are sick!

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Most commun cars in your congregation

by JH in

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friends

in your former congregation, what models of cars were the most commun?.

in my congregation, there was a time in the late 80's, that just about everybody had a dodge aries.

it seemed to be an inexpensive decent size car for the service, then a few years later, many had volkswagen jettas, a little more expensive.... i was the type to get a red, 2 door car.

pudd

lilacia, did you and i go to the same hall?!

that is just as it was in my first congregation. as a very poor pioneer i used to feel very uncomfable around all that money.

as a very poor pioneer

i mean i had no money , not that i wasn't very good at it!

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what do i say?

by pudd in

i got a phone call last night from an old j.w.

friend.

she was very close at one time and is one of a very few who did not turn on me when i left.

pudd

sassy,

just got off the phone.

the lady that has cancer is apparently holding things together quite well, she has a strong witness faith but and is not afraid of dying. the only thing that bothers her is that in the ressurection there is apparently no marrage or child birth. she has remained single waiting for the right brother to come along all this time and now she believes she will never fulfill her greatest desire.

my friend however, the one who phoned me sees things a little differently. she is beside herself with grief and blames god. (yes she too is a witness) so it is hard to know what to say.

thanks again everyone for your support. I guess it is one of those situatons where I need to play it by hear.

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what do i say?

by pudd in

i got a phone call last night from an old j.w.

friend.

she was very close at one time and is one of a very few who did not turn on me when i left.

pudd

Thanks every one,

I guess I was just so shocked when I heared that I didn't think I could deal with it.

((reboot)) you are right that this person is some distance away about 200 miles. so the phone is about the only way I can regularly be there for her.

I really care about my friend a lot and the trouble is I know we will both get very emotional. I know I have to be the strong one, and I am not sure I can.

well, thanks for your support. I am just going to ring her now.

pudd xxx