I'm so sorry for what you're going through. One thing you have going for you is that you are young. Life outside the JWs will be hard for you, but you CAN do it. Start considering your resouces, ANYONE on the outside who might be willing to help you. Maybe talk to some of your relatives who are out, see if they can help you. I know you want to stay for your family, but you will only end up hurting yourself. And if you leave, you might get them thinking. I will keep you in my prayers.
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