Brad, in view of my post earlier today, I really appreciate what you said. You are right, they probably are the ones hurting the most inside. But, more than anything, I agree with you that so many of them seem hollow inside-like there is no true emotion or feeling in them. I am sure it comes from years of being told how to feel and how to think. Wow, I am so glad not be like them anymore...I don't want to feel hollow inside! Thanks for the post, it was great.
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I saw one of the elders from my judicial committee today.....
by outbutnotdown ini was df'd about 12 years ago and i saw one of the elders form my judicial committee for the first time in about 11 and 1/2 years today.
i was at the mcdonald's playland with three of my four beautiful children, and i went up to the counter to get something they had forgotten to give me and there he was..... standing a foot from me, in typical saturday morning service garb.
i was taken by surprise but my instant reaction was going to be to thank him for kicking me out.... since, even though it has not always been easy, it is still the best thing that ever happened to me.
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Harsh reality of disfellowshipping
by lovinlife inhi everybody, it has been forever since i have been here!
i have missed you.
i had some harsh reality of disfellowshipping thrown in my face yesterday that made me realize how much i have missed being here with all you lovely people.
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XQ, I so totally agree with you. They really have no excuse. My friend, also df'd, says that after this emergency eases alittle, I should write them a letter and eloquently tell them what I think of the way they are going beyond what is written and how inhumane I feel that they are toward their own daughter. No sure I am going to do that just yet with the situation so dire with sis in law, but maybe later. But no matter what I say, they will justify it. As you can guess, they are very controlling people. And they can be rather self-righteous--kind of like the Pharasees going beyong what what written and instead of just washing their hands, they made sure they washed up to their elbows! I really feel sorry for them most of the time.
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Harsh reality of disfellowshipping
by lovinlife inhi everybody, it has been forever since i have been here!
i have missed you.
i had some harsh reality of disfellowshipping thrown in my face yesterday that made me realize how much i have missed being here with all you lovely people.
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I so appreciate all your thoughts. I agree that they are disfunctional and that this treatment goes beyond the Watchtower thing. I feel that they are punishing me for not living my life the way they taught me and that it reflects on them and so I have embarrassed them in the cong. My parents are particularly affected by what others think. They instilled that in me and so it took a long time to get that out of me.
XQ, I know what you mean about how what they are doing is not coming from the WT, or written in the elders manual etc. I remember previous posts about it and realized then how much farther my parents carry their treatment of me than is really necessary to please the elders/org etc.
I appreciate you all so much! Thanks for helping me to feel better and to get things back into a better perspective!
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Harsh reality of disfellowshipping
by lovinlife inhi everybody, it has been forever since i have been here!
i have missed you.
i had some harsh reality of disfellowshipping thrown in my face yesterday that made me realize how much i have missed being here with all you lovely people.
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Thank you all for your thoughts. I appreciate the comment to tell the elders, but when my exhusband was beating me (an elder at the time) they did not do anything to him or anything to help. So, I don't really think that they will have anything to say to my Dad, the presiding overseer of the cong they attend (at least he was last time I heard!) But blasting away at them is always a pleasant thought!!!
I am planning on writing my brother a note, since I am not in Florida, expressing my unconditional love for him etc. I refuse to lower myself their level by ignoring his pain. I want to show him as much love as I can. Maybe he will see a difference in the way I am being treated, but I doubt it. I am so glad I am away from these people. You all probably understand this, but sometimes I really miss the idea of having my family around, but I don't really miss them personally at all!
Thank you all so much for your caring.
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Did You Feel "Safe" Being A Jehovah's Witness???
by minimus ini think many people remain as jws because they feel an isolation that spells security for them.
they enjoy being in their protected bubble.
the realization that they never have to make any real decisions is appealing.
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The only way that I felt somewhat safe was in the thought that at least I had the answers to life's tough questions....even if I didn't like the answers!
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Harsh reality of disfellowshipping
by lovinlife inhi everybody, it has been forever since i have been here!
i have missed you.
i had some harsh reality of disfellowshipping thrown in my face yesterday that made me realize how much i have missed being here with all you lovely people.
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Hi everybody, it has been forever since I have been here! I have missed you. I had some harsh reality of disfellowshipping thrown in my face yesterday that made me realize how much I have missed being here with all you lovely people. My parents are rather militant about shunning me. I am not allowed in their house, they will not be in the same location with me for any reason (i.e. "worldly" family reunion, etc.), and they will not initiate any conversation with me whatsoever. Okay, now that you have the background, this is what happened: I had occasion to have to call my parents a few days ago (long story, won't bore you with details), and found that my mother was not home, she was in Florida due to my sister in law's extreme illness. She went down to help my brother with the kids etc. My father very haltingly told me this, but it was obvious that he was completely uncomfortable talking to me. I discussed my business with him briefly, and that being concluded, ended the call. Well, in the course of following up on the business started, I called the house again and only my Grandmother was home. She told me that my father had flown to Florida and that the situation was very serious and that my sister in law was dying! I asked her for more details and found that sis in law has been suffering for a long time with an unknown illness, docs can't figure out what is wrong, but she has been in constant pain for a long time and has been on morphine etc. She is now down to 76lbs and is filling up with fluid and the docs can't stop it and are basically just making her more comfortable until....whatever.
Okay, so I am now confronted with the really harsh reality that even if a family situation is dire and someone is about to die, I will not be notified. I only found out because I had the freak occurrance to have to call. I was very close to my sis in law and I wonder if they would have even bothered to have called me if she died (or does die, for that matter)! I just hurt so bad for my brother, who will be left alone with 2 children under 5 yrs old if she dies. I am just so amazed at my family's inhumane behavior that I just keep staying on the verge of tears. And I hurt for her since she is one of the nicest people I have ever known, such a kind hearted person even while being fooled by the JWs. With all this, I am reminded of how judged I am and how I am not worthy of being included in any family situation -- in their opinion! So I felt compelled to come back and visit you all where I know that I am never going to be judged and where I know people understand. Thank you all for reading my painful story. Just knowing that you all know how all this feels is a comfort in itself. Thanks again.
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Civilian Encountered the Damage of JW Occult
by Forever_classy incivilian encountered the damage of jw occult
i have to admit that i came out of a spiritually abusive 20 year long marriage and never once did it compare to the damage that jw religion did to my past boyfriend.
the lies and fear that was feed into this man as a child messed him up royal!.
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Welcome.....may you find comfort here among us. We all live with some pain from them in one way or another. Hope the site helps!
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Two things....
The first was jumping off a 50 ft cliff into a very small, but deep mountain stream strewn with rocks at the bottom the day before I got married. (The way my marriage turned out, I am sorry I didn't just float on down the stream!)
The second thing was after I got divorced from the abusive jerk, I had a fling with a guy that turned out to be married to the mob boss's daughter at their vacation house....found evidence of her and guns and overheard some phone stuff....that was enough for me!!! I was outta there!
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Hello everyone...I missed you all
by lovinlife ini have been away from the board...tons of personal crisis!
but i am back and i will never get caught up now on all the posts!
but i did want to wish you all a happy new year since i wasn't here to do it before!
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I have been away from the board...tons of personal crisis! But I am back and I will never get caught up now on all the posts! But I did want to wish you all a Happy New Year since I wasn't here to do it before! Sorry to be late! I hope all you had a great Christmas etc., too.
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Can We Give Words of Support To Simon For This Forum???
by minimus inwe go through cycles every so often here.
we get new posters every week and at times we lose some posters.
when most "newbies" find this site, they are thrilled to be able to express themselves in a way that they could never in a kingdom hall.
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Thank you Simon....you have helped so many...including me!!!!