CHL...are you saying that taking you to the elders was a good thing or a bad thing?
I am torn somewhat on this girl being put on public exhibition like that. It does sound extreme to say the least!
I had a situation that my junior-high son was caught up in and the results were not good. A "worldly" girl from school came over to our house and my son slipped her in his bedroom and she hid in the closet. Her parents were out of town and she was staying with a girlfriend. She was like a wild horse needing some space to run! Her mother was a teacher at the junior-high and demanded her daughter be perfect. Anyway, there was a party down the street from us and she slipped away from her friend and knew my son and came to hide out for a while and then was going to meet some other friends later on.
Well, the parents of her friend soon came knocking on my door to see if we had seen her. I said "no", not realizing that she was in my house. But I had the presence of mind to check with my son just to make sure, as they were worried sick about her. I could tell that my son was hiding something from me, so I went to check his room out, opened up the closet door and there she stood. She had that deer in the headlight look!
I calmly asked everyone to sit down and we discussed the situation thoroughly.
The next day, her mother came over and accused my son/her daughter of having sex. I got hot over that!!! I told her that she was pushing her daughter away and she had better get a handle on this before she did permanent damage. With her daughter standing there, she informed us that she was taking her to be checked to see if she was still a virgin and she would press charges against my son if she wasn't!
What a horrible thing to put your young daughter through. I tried to convince her that I believed them when they said that had not happened, but to no avail. She went ahead. She was still a virgin...can you imagine the humiliation of that exam??? The next day her daughter ran away from home...I still don't know if she ever came back.
What works for one may not work for another. This teacher didn't have a clue what her daughter was about!!! How sad!
Swalker