Posts by 4JWY

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Sad News...

by Sentinel in

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my mom had her valve replacement and triple by-pass surgery today.

the operation lasted five hours, and they had just gotten her to her room at 8:00pm when she went into cardiac arrest.

the doctor tried everything, even opening up her chest and massaging her heart.

4JWY

Dear Karen,

So, so sorry for your sadness and loss of mom. They are truly one of a kind in every child's life - hold on to your memories and you will always feel she is by your side.

4JWY

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Any one out there been diagnosed with bipolar?

by Lehaa in

i've just started being treated for bipolar disorder, used to be called manic depression.

medication i'm now (lexapro) on seems to be working really well.

i do worry about how my being bipolar will effect my kids.

Although it is easier said than done, I'm sure you know already that stress is a big bad guy with bipolar. By learning how to keep stress to a minimum or at least controlled, you will fare much better. When you have just begun medication, please be aware of your feelings and the side effects as there are some dangers with it's use until your body adjusts to it - particularly if you become highly agitated - keep in close contact with your Dr. on the dosage.

Several members of my family live with this condition and we benefitted greatly by attending a 12 week free educational course for family members of those with brain disorders through the NAMI organization (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill) - They have chapters all throughout the U.S. If you do a search on NAMI - you will be pleased to locate so much info on bipolar disorder and how you can live successfully with it. Much emphasis is placed on both you and your family becoming educated on the disorder and their materials were a lifesaver to us.

Wishing you the best ~

4JWY

(now, I see you are not in the states - you can still view all of NAMI on-line tho)

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Another Freaky Pic

by ColdRedRain in

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whadda think?.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/file/d45e7361-9eb4-47c9-b668-228b08bdf64c.ashx

4JWY

Whadda bout? Somethin's missing ....?

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A visit with my mom.....suggestions?

by desib77 in

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my hubby and i had my mom over last sat.

and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.. now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on friday while i'm in town.

now, i know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if i love jehovah and tell me that if i do i should obey his commands.......and so on....and i will probably leave her feeling worthless.. i don't want to miss out on spending time with her because i really love my mother....but on the other hand i don't want to leave her depressed.... any suggestions?

4JWY

Blondie ~

Thank you so much I figured you would be able to help here - you rule!

Warm regards,

4JWY

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A visit with my mom.....suggestions?

by desib77 in

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my hubby and i had my mom over last sat.

and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.. now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on friday while i'm in town.

now, i know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if i love jehovah and tell me that if i do i should obey his commands.......and so on....and i will probably leave her feeling worthless.. i don't want to miss out on spending time with her because i really love my mother....but on the other hand i don't want to leave her depressed.... any suggestions?

4JWY

One of the first ways I was able to share my thoughts with my dad was to have him read the August 8, 1988 AW with the cover article - gosh, I forget the exact title and I have it filed away somewhere - but it's like : IS YOUR RELIGION A MATTER OF CHOICE OR CHANCE? The whole first few articles are excellent in showing that just because our parents are of a certain religion, does not mean it will be OUR choice in life - it was written of course, for "worldly" people to be encouraged to not be afraid to leave the religion of their parents. When my dad read it - the first thing he asked was if my kids had read it - "because it can be taken the other way around!" Yes, it shows that our offspring will not always choose what we chose in regards religion - I also went over the entire article with two separate elders on the phone as I was trying to get them to help my dad understand - from the WTS's own literature - why I was allowing my teens to make a choice.

I don't know how to post the articles here, but I would really appreciate it if someone could do that - thank you

Enjoy your time with your mom ~

4JWY

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Poison oak cures?

by Sirius Dogma in

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hey all,.

yesterday while mountain biking i came down a trail way too fast, slid, slipt and slided of a cliff and flew like a winged monkey from the wizard of oz into a patch of poison oak.

both my forearms are covered from wrist to elbow with the stuff.

4JWY

My son has had very serious cases of poison oak almost annually, missing school sometimes for two weeks as he has been so swollen and monster like from head to toe. Tried everything over the years and his best testimonial goes to a pure aloe vera gel applied directly to the affected areas - it still has to run it's course, but this offered much relief and good healing/no scarring.

Don't forget to clean your bike - and all your cycling clothes, gloves, helmet and shoes especially - to remove any oils. We usually use Simple Green, or, if you get the tecnu, you can use that.

Our thoughts are with you as you try not to scratch

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My wife's infected me ...

by Simon in

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... with "zest for education".

yes, i've been bitten by the bug and have decided to follow her example and enrol for university.. unfortunately, i don't get a student grant so i don't get to blow it all on beer and partying .

but i will get a degree at the end of it

4JWY

Simon -

Go for it!

My best friend and roommate during our youthful JW years (WHEN WE SHOULDA BEEN IN COLLEGE), just graduated with a master's degree at 50 years old and I'm so proud of her - an inspiration to me indeed!

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I need your help

by Veritas in

i need to know if it's ok for me to convert and become a jehovah's witness to be with the love of my life.

i need to know what you think about this idea.

if you agree with me converting, how would i do so.

4JWY

My best advice to you is :

WALK ON - but, not IN, to JWdum - WITH OR WITHOUT HER -. (Actually, even if she leaves JW's, you will still have a tremendous amount of crap to deal with.)

Please don't ever think that living a lie- or a charade is the way to go. I just lived a lie of believing all the JW teachings during my 25 years of marriage to a non JW who DID convert for me. Recently, both of us along with our children - after all those years of doing what we thought would please the other within the religious (cult) arena - have left the cult with an exuberance never before experienced as we realize we are who we wish we had been all the years previous. One's true personality is buried within the JW belief system - as a matter of fact, you don't really even KNOW who your love truly IS at this point. If you think she is loyal to her religion, she has fooled you - since to be loyal would mean she would not have developed this relationship with you to begin with. She is living with a load of guilt.

25 years ago, my then to be husband was given a book on Cults by the pastor of his church and he was urged NOT to marry me. But, he was the hopeless romantic like you, we married, raised JW kids and we made it work - BUT.... the years wasted in the cult can never be brought back. Now, with the benefit of all these thoughts and experiences from others, I hope you will be able to make the decision you can live with happily for ever after.

Best wishes,

4JWY

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Encouragement to get back to the meetings

by cyber-sista in

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i keep getting these forwards from certain ones who i knew in the org.

they know i have left because i was "discouraged".

they are keeping their distance by not writing to me anything personal, but keep sending these "encouraging" forwards in hopes that i'll be re-awakened, dust off the book bag and head on back to the old kh.

4JWY

Excuse me, but that is one god awful sick poem ! That's the mindset of the cult - they are such" weak" people and need to get their f---king fix at 5 meetings a week, service etc, etc, etc,...........

That's exactly the mindset my dad lived under - the brothers came to the house to shoot him up with the scriptures, shared prayers, - he'd slump in his chair in a trance-like state and it was just like watching some heroin addict shoot up - then later, on the downside, without that 24/7 fix - the depression hits and the battery drained, you kill yourself while feeling you have no life left to keep up the fight against Satan and your "weaknesses".

Thanks for sharing it cybs - it has recharged my battery and nobody better show up at my door today to ENCOURAGE me!

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The Stepford Wives

by Xandria in

it is totally surreal and funny!

not at all what i expected.

glen close and bett midler were hilarious!

4JWY

Gosh, we had really looked forward to this film, but ended up being disappointed in it. We seemed to be the only people in the very crowded theatre that DID catch some of the funny parts tho and laughed. It was somewhat shallow and kinda hokey - Matthew Broderick was questionable in his role and we didn't feel much for the characters. Faith Hill needs to stick with her singing career - Bette Midler was the best of the bunch. We don't think the movie will make it big as a summer hit, but it may boost rentals/sales of the original film.