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  The good in Jehovah's Witnesses.

  by ScoobySnax in

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  i don't think i've made any apology for my leanings here towards jws, whilst i don't imagine most here will agree with me, i just think its good sometimes to redress the balance on this forum in a small way to let people who might be reading/lurking/ know that.. despite feeling messed up a bit in my own head about which direction i want/have to take in my own life, and despite many struggles as deep and traumatic as many have experienced here, i still hold jws as a group in the highest esteem.

  i can remember what it was like to try and do the "right" thing and follow the way of the truth, it was bloody hard, and i fell down many times.

  i always used to try and pick myself up dust myself down and start over again, sometimes with success for longer periods than others.

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  While I do agree that there are some "good" JW's, how do you explain the ones that have let their children die for their beliefs. Let me explain. My aunt had a child that was physically disabled. She was a JW, her husband was not. My cousin needed an operation to save his life, she said fine WITH NO BLOOD, against the wishes of my uncle, the father. Needless to say her 10 year old child died in surgery. Then she had the nerve at the burial to pull ME to the front, only 15 at the time, to see my mothers grave and the grave. Telling me "isn't it nice we will see them in paradise" NO, to me it wasn't nice. My mother died when I was 5, I couldn't look at her grave and be happy. I couldn't even stand after seeing her grave, had to be carried out to the car, I was miserable. But, isn't it nice to see them in paradise? I was in a miserable family and they made me miserable, all I could think was that if she were alive I wouldn't be miserable.
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  HELP! God get me out of here!

  by Sparks in

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  have you ever been stuck in an embarrassing situation where you think you`d rather die than endure another 30 seconds...?

  what is it with some of these witnesses!okay so they are no part of the world,fine,but which world,which planet are they on..!!!

  (ok, let`s start at the beginning).i was a witness for many years, so while i`m out shopping or working, i quiet often bump into pioneers and other witnesses who are out on their ministry.some-times we just say "hello" and go in our seperate way`s; but often we will stop and chat for ten minutes or so.some-times i have to-be almost rude to get away from some,especially the pioneer`s who set the hours meter running as soon as we start talking.i am never rude to the witnesses, i was a pioneer myself and always try to put myself in other peoples shoes[ the golden rule ].sometimes i meet the odd elder while in the town centre.

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  That was just too funny!!!!!
  
  
  
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  Hi

  by Nancy Drake in

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  hi everyone, i'm nancy.

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  five_crew

  Hello Nancy,

  I just joind myself and a month ago moved from Wisconsin.
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  My Story

  by five_crew in

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  this is my story.

  it is my first time telling my story and a little intimidating.

  when i was 8 my adoptive family became jw's.

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  five_crew

  Thanks to all of you, it is really encouraging to see so many people in one place who feel this way. I have been searching for this for a while, but have always been afraid of consequences that go with it. There is alot more to my story, but how does everyone deal with the pain associated with the memories of the things that happened? Not just the pain but the hurt and dare I say, ANGER.
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  Do you have a favorite piece of music?

  by MorpheuzX in

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  i don't know if this thread has been covered before; do you have a favorite song or piece of music or performer?

  i know the question seems juvenile.

  but, i'm curious.. mine, i think, is a tie between wladyslaw szpilman's performance of chopin's nocturne in c-sharp minor and angela hewitt's version of bach's goldberg variations -- the aria is divine!.

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  I found a song off Kenny Chesney's new CD that touched me very deeply (you may think it is funny), but it is called "Some people change". It gave me hope that even the most narrow minded people can change with God's help. The very core of what we would all like to see, it tells us "against all odds, against the grain, love finds a way, some people change." How nice to think that even the most strict JW's still have hope to change
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  Anyone going to the memorial??

  by New Castles in

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  anyone going to the memorial this coming weekend?

  i didnt want to, but my wife does.

  i guess i will end up going....anyone else?

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  Not me, I have not been to 1 since I left ten yrs. ago
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  What made you leave?

  by Joysome in

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  by this i mean what was it specifically that said to you that this isn't the truth?

  caused you to give up what you always thought was the truth?

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  When my husband and I decided to get married, he wasn't good enough for people because he wasn't a JW. Never mind that he loved me and treated me exactly the way God tells us man should love his wife. My parents always told my grandma (who took great offense to this statement) "I don't care who she marries as long as he is a JW." What a crock!!!
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  Confusing

  by five_crew in

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  do any of you ever have this problem.

  people find out that you used to have an affiliation with the jw organization and they think that you should be able to answer all of their questions.

  both biblical and what they feel the organization is doing wrong.

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  Do any of you ever have this problem. People find out that you used to have an affiliation with the JW organization and they think that you should be able to answer all of their questions. Both biblical and what they feel the organization is doing wrong. I find people question me relentlessly about their beliefs and what I believe now. Sometimes to the exclustion to everyone else that is in the conversation. I feel quite vulnerable at times like these, like they are trying to get into my brain. Sometimes I feel like I gave somebody a piece of myself and wonder how to get it back. Like people are looking for a reason to put you in the wrong, or to argue about beliefs, even if you don't believe the same. Then, and this is the kicker, they try to tell me what I SHOULD be believing, like I don't have a brain of my own. Or like my view of God and faith is so skewed by the JW beliefs that I couldn't have my own opinion.
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  Hi, I'm Kibi!

  by kibizzle in

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  i just found this sight today and have not had time to read very many posts, but i can relate to some of the ones i have read thus far.

  i have been a jw for only 2yrs.

  but have had doubts for about 6mo.

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  Good for you Kibi. I know it is hard to get away from the organization. Every few years I go through a bout of depression and tell myself maybe I should just try again. I knew many good people within the organization, but doesn't every organization have a few good people. I still find myself agreeing with the things that they teach. But I have seen within my own life a wonderful relationship with God and his many blessings since leaving the organization. All you can do is what God tells you to do in your heart. Satan will try to dissuade you from your convictions any way that he can. Good Luck to you.
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  My Story

  by five_crew in

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  this is my story.

  it is my first time telling my story and a little intimidating.

  when i was 8 my adoptive family became jw's.

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  This is my story. It is my first time telling my story and a little intimidating. When I was 8 my adoptive family became JW's. When my mother died, her request before my brother and I were adopted was that we not be raised JW. At 7, I had already had my first crush (this becomes important later in my story). As a child, after losing my mother, losing holidays didn't really matter anymore, then as I grew up I started doing all the things that "good" Jehovah's Witnesses do. I was putting 60 hours a month in the door-to-door ministry, giving talks, etc. But I longed for what I considered a normal teenage life. As a result I started sneaking out of the house to go on dates and such. Of course I was caught and went through all the channels. I was privately reproved and my priveleges were taken away. People stopped letting their children do things with me even if their kids were doing worse things than I was. Eventually, I got back in touch with my first crush. We started writing letters, of course my step-mom intercepted them and the whole thing started all over again. My step-mom literally locked my bedroom door from the outside, put a baby monitor in my room so she could hear everything going on and nailed my bedroom window shut. I moved out of my parents house, got back in touch with my first crush and married him.

  Things only got wierder after that. I only had 5 people at my wedding because I was afraid of what my parents would do. I got pregnant with my first child and before you know it the elders were at my door. I got disfellowshipped and shunned. I had a very difficult pregnancy, I was in labor at six months. I had to monitor contractions at home and take medication to keep labor stopped. When our first child was born, he had a birth defect. My grandmother was at my side, called my step-mother and pitched a fit. So, after the baby was airlifted to where he would have surgery the next day, my step-mother called and offered to come down to the hospitol the next day to be with us during the surgery. Of course she couldn't come alone, she had to call in reinforcements and during the surgery, I sat on pins and needles. Not only was I out of the hospitol 10 hours after having a baby, traveling four more hours to a new hospital, worried about what is going on in surgery. I had to worry about what was going to be said. I was given the impression that I had caused my child to be born that way for going against the church.

  After the baby got home from the hospital, my husband and I started going to meetings. While I waited out in the cold car, people would keep the baby and him in the kingdom hall for an hour afterwards talking to him. It was too hard for me to deal with. The same people that would shun me would want to hold the baby during the meetings and keep him afterwards to enjoy. Neither my husband nor I could handle it. We quit going and had two more children.

  We have been married for 10 wonderful years. We live our lives very uprightly. Yet, we are always considered wrong. My step-parents can do whatever they want, hurt us many times over, but we are supposed to kiss their butts to get back into their good graces. We finally had enough. My children may not know their grandparents well, but everytime we try all they do is hurt us. I refuse to have my children hurt anymore, so we quit trying. You can only imagine the amout of critisism we get for that decision. Thankfully, we moved out of state recently and can be more stable. Less trying to please everyone else, more pleasing our children.

  Anyway that is my story, thank you for reading