Hi Dolph,
I think our disconnect here is simple: Your talking about phenomena that people chase looking for a spiritual high and I'm talking about a specific phenomena, kundalini, which through it's phenomena/experiences to transform someone into an awakened being.
Not exactly. The point I want to make here is that regardless of whether you went looking for the experience or not, the mind has a tendancy to grasp or avert, and those extremes simply make for a more violent experience. So in terms of addressing the suffering a person might be undergoing you need to address the mental behavior of grasping and averting, which may be happening on a subtle level without you being aware of it. In other words, "you" make it into suffering. This is what I meant when I say some people are naive, because their whole identity ends up being formed around the experience - when the point is exactly the opposite. Years later you still hear them in Yahoo chat going on about the experience and they haven't a clue as to what its about. Even though the intense physical experience may have subsided, their suffering just becomes the spiritual identity of someone who had a kundalini awakening.
It sounds like you have basically the right guidance. Remember, if its about not identifying in any way, then having someone who can identify with the experience is really secondary - you know what I mean? Best to seek understanding, and that's not about having some thought as an answer.