Posts by beckyboop

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Salvia Divinorum Anyone?

by Valis in

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has anyone else tried salvia?

i recently tried this herb, which is a member of the sage family, via smoking it.

i must say that it is a psychedellic not for the faint of heart or one who fears the loss of control for several minutes at a time.

You beat me to it! My boyfriend and I tried it over the weekend for the first time. (never do it alone, and take turns) He just had a glimpse of the "trip", then kinda freaked out and came back. I don't think I had quite enough to put me over the edge; but that's ok cause I want to hear about his experience first. We've done a bunch of reading about it, and the sources all say to be in a dark quiet place with no distractions. Since we have 3 dogs, that kinda made it difficult! I'm sure we'll probably try again this weekend--hopefully the dogs will sleep. Anyway, how was your trip? Have you done it more than once? I'm curious about your experience.

curious christy, it doesn't taste bad at all, kinda like smokin pot leaves. The weird part is you feel it coming on rather quickly, and you still need to smoke enough to get you "all the way". But, a note of caution--please don't do it alone. Read about it first, as much as you can find. It's pretty powerful stuff. Hope to hear more experiences with this.

Becky

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Should I have a Christmas tree?

by scuba99 in

hi folks,.

i'm rather new here, only posted a couple of times.

although i have been visiting the site daily for a good 2 months now.

beckyboop

Naked,

Wedding rings, throwing rice, calendars, food, certain types of clothing, symbols--all of these things are not mere "customs"--they are a huge part of our everyday life! Do you not wear a ring, look and/or use a calendar, or many other things that have their complete originations in paganism? Somehow I doubt it; tell me if I'm wrong though. I personally don't think that a "god" would say that some of it is right, and only some wrong when it's all the same background.

I just don't subscribe to the "satan as ruler" theory any more--my 70 or 80 years on earth (hopefully, if I'm lucky and take care of myself) don't need any more evil influences than are already living on earth today. I'm much more confident that we are in control--not an unseen force. Besides, that way I'm not always afraid that my next mistake will be the one that causes my supposedly loving "father" to kill me. I'm much happier believing that I'm responsible for my own life--not counting accidents.

Great topics though, it's nice to read other's viewpoints even when different from my own. I guess I just got tired of my "life" being enslaved to anything other than my own making--because that's hard enough.

Scuba,

I would have to agree that you should do what you want to do first of all, and definitely at least try it out for your wife's sake (I personally love the holidays). You live with her as pointed out earlier, and your home life is very important. Your father at some point needs to accept that you are an adult and are capable of making your own decisions. Of course, we still should be respectful of their beliefs, as we hope that they will someday respect ours also.

Good night all,

Becky

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Should I have a Christmas tree?

by scuba99 in

hi folks,.

i'm rather new here, only posted a couple of times.

although i have been visiting the site daily for a good 2 months now.

beckyboop

Naked,

I can understand where you're coming from since I was raised a JW and their "pagan origin" views. However, I'd like to just say that if you're really going to point the finger at the holidays, then you need to look at many aspects of your everyday life that have pagan origins. Remember the calendar, wedding rings, throwing rice at weddings....etc.? I'm sure if we dig deep enough we can find "pagan" origins associated with many things we do and have in our homes every day.

Don't you think that whatever version of "god" is, he would be more interested in how we treat others--including various celebrations of life on certain days of the year? I certainly wouldn't want to offend you and your beliefs and the way you live your life. But, can you at least see that most people who choose to indulge in those holidays are only using them to bring joy into their lives and those around them?

I personally am trying to find the happy medium in between the garbage I was fed as a jw, and my own happiness at being able to visit with and share presents with those I love. Last year at Christmas I was unable to give much, but received more than I ever dreamed! I'm looking forward to giving in my own way this year--because I want to.

Becky

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Why does there have to be one right religion?

by kenpodragon in

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when it comes to cars, i tend to like toyota's.

when it comes to food, i like chinese and italian.

when it comes to vacations, i like the mountains or tropical beaches.

beckyboop

Personally I don't there is one--because anytime you get a group of people together who think "their" way is the "only" way, then problems arise. Be it abuse of power, sexual, mental, physical or any other type of abuse--something goes wrong. I really appreciate Kenpo's line of reasoning, because if anyone can't see the diversity in nature then they are truly "blind".

And besides, the way I've put it into perspective lately is this--how many of you who are parents would KILL your own children for doing some things you don't personally agree with? That's what we claim to follow in most religions today (especially Christianity). However you look at it, if you don't agree with something then you will die by your own loving?! Father. Does that make any sense? Not in my mind!

Becky

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What's the worst thing you did at the KH?

by glitter in

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friends

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i went to the 1999 memorial with no underwear on!.

so what's the worst thing everyone's done on borg property?

beckyboop

Great topic! It's nice to remember funny or embarrassing things instead of the lies for once. When I was about 2 years old, I was being taken out to get spanked and halfway down the aisle I yelled, "Jehovah save me!" Although I have heard of others doing that too!

During my elementary years one of my friends (female) used to call us all into her "office"--the bathroom--because she was the Fonz.

At one point in my life I had dated 2 different guys (in succession), and I was finally becoming very sexually curious. We would be in field service and we'd sit in the back of the van and put our bookbags on our lap in an upright position. The bags "sort of" hid our "wandering" hands on each other; although I'm pretty sure one friend knew what we were doing!

Becky

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Is anyone near me?

by Sky in

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friends

i was wondering if anyone on this forum is near cincinnati?.

thats where i be, and i be lonely!.

peace to all!.

beckyboop

Hi Sky,

I don't live in Cincy anymore, but you have a mother load of people to meet with there. My ex-husband is Charlie, and his email is intuit37@hotmail (it's in his profile under "members"). He has been very successful at getting people together in that area, as well as being VERY talented at helping people leaving the borg. (I would never have had the courage otherwise) There are quite a few (infrequent) posters to the board who live in Cincy or No. KY. At times we've had 15-20 at a time get together, and different ones each time.

Do I know you? My name is Becky Leon, formerly Becky Daniel of Sun Valley Cong, Dayton Spanish, Williamstown, Owenton etc. I live in Rhode Island now, but know quite a few people from that area. I'm 34 if that helps. Good luck with meeting up with new friends and maybe even some old ones--you never know who you might recognize.

Becky

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Will they grow Hemp in that Paradise garden?

by kenpodragon in

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friends

i was thinking today about that paradise garden the witness always pictured.

i remember all those happy blank faces, with the rosy cheeks and content look.

they were all smiling eating a apple, petting a lion, and running around the trees.

beckyboop

Viv,

I don't think something as good as hemp would survive under the self-righteous attitudes of the dubs! Surely that alone would kill off anything remotely connected to feeling good--except alcohol...they do drink a lot!

Aluminutty,

Where can I sign up and donate to the GB club? How about "Governing Bong" for a name? Any other ideas out there? I'd LOVE to see them high--and read the resulting articles. Hehe!

Avengers,

I can't wait to visit the Netherlands! Hopefully within the next year...

Becky

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September 11, an opinion from Mark Price

by Celtic in

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today i am hoping very much that your anniversary of the twin towers catastrophe and the pentagon/pittsburgh goes well with all of you, god forbid, anything else happening today.

in some of my posts, it would appear to some that i might have a few problems with the american people.

this is not wholly true.

beckyboop

Thank you Mark for your kind and well thought out words.

It seems to me that many people here on the forum get mad at criticisms of the US, instead of taking them for the truth they are and trying to learn from our mistakes.

Our country had a horrific blow dealt to us last year, and hopefully we can respect ALL those who died either during the attack or in later events.

For me, it was a day to finally realize that Armageddon is not coming--the JWs DO NOT have the "truth"; nor does any one group, religion, race etc.

I have greatly appreciated reading the various comments from posters who are trying to find non-violent answers to problems when necessary--because it certainly seems like violence begets violence.

Becky

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Are you passionate about life?

by MARTINLEYSHON in

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passion.

in your relationship.

passion: a word that expresses a habit of the mind.

beckyboop

YES! I am passionate about life (finally)--thanks for asking Martin. Not only did I leave the borg

about 4 years ago, but my now ex-husband and I decided to divorce amicably and a few months

later I met the man I'm with now. We have started a new life together in Rhode Island, and appreciate

reading about and trying different things to keep our relationship alive. We have implemented different

ideas and practices from tantra, Buddhism, Hinduism etc. Doing so has certainly helped us to grow

together spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually.

My life has changed drastically since leaving the borg--so much so that some of my friends who

also are ex-jw's are somewhat amazed at how different I am and how unafraid I "seem" to be.

I certainly still have many fears to overcome, but am finding that each day I can take new steps to be

the person I want to be--I'm inventing it as I go along! Thanks for posting the great tips--I will definitely

be adding them to my collection.

Becky

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Women. Periods, and how to cope with them .....

by Celtic in

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friends

puts plugs in his ears from the start.. now, it don't seem to be my imagination, but many ladies for some inexplicable reason seem a tad unreasonable at least once a month where anything i do seems to be wrong in their eyes.

most ruddy irksome it is from a guys point of view i can tell ee.

here we are, quite happy in our own right, say something to this here balmpot, and wowwwwww irritable utterances just tumble forth with such degrees of unreasonableness tis almost funny to observe, but dare i laugh in their presence whilst she be in this most unpredictable of states?

beckyboop

Hi everyone,

I've LMAO reading this thread, and had to say thanks! Anyway, to Shutterbug: No, quite honestly, you may never truly UNDERSTAND a woman if you aren't one. But I can say this, you can learn to RESPECT us by educating yourself. All we ask is you TRY to empathize with the hormonal war going on inside us. As someone already mentioned, it's VERY difficult for us to go through; so any information you can find to attempt to understand us is greatly appreciated.

And I have to say, I've been pretty lucky as far as the men in my life: #1--Charlie, has 5 sisters and a mother so of course was well versed... and #2--Jonathan has a mother who seems to have tried very hard to raise her 3 boys to be aware of women's needs. I'm very grateful, because I can turn into quite the b***h from hell and it drives me crazy because I feel so different from normal! Thanks for the great post about real life.

Becky