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  My Favourite Smurf

  by Beans in

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  here he is beer smurf,i got him in 1984 in germany my summer of decission.i was 15 and started drinking hey it`s legal over there at this age.on this day i was drinking beer on the town street a cop walked by and smiled,i thought this is the life how could any religion promote a boring life.

  "did he run through your kh too?".

  thank you onkle manfred wherever you are ich liebe dich!.

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  bigfloppydog

  DEFINETLY SMURFETTE
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  Grandfather died

  by Cygnus in

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  and now there is a debate between my father and his sister whether there should be a memorial service at the kingdom hall.. is there a rule whereby an elder who gives a memorial service at a kingdom hall must use the society's outline?

  because my father and my grandmother have made it quite clear that he under no circumstances do they want that.

  (i'm very blessed to have jw family who do not shun me even with the long hair (yes it is growing back), earring, and, oh yeah, disfellowshipment).

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  So sorry to hear that you grandfather has passed away. You need to make sure you get a really good speaker at the funeral. When my step-dad died, I felt we were sitting at the Kingdom Hall and listening to a talk, I mean the guy neve even got my name right. I was sitting in the front pew and he called me Debbie, that is not my name, and I sat there and whispered to my husband and brother, I can't believe he just called me Debbie, that's not my name, the brother looked at me and said what is your name, then I told him and he repeated my proper name. This man never knew anything about me, all he knew I guess was what he was told by the rest of the family, (probably that she left the org.) so they most likely gossiped behind my back. What I am getting at is just make sure you pick someone who knows what they are doing, and does the right thing and reflects on your grandfathers life and not giving a sermon so-to-speak. Because of this I will never attend a witness furneral again. People who I had not seen in a long time, who I thought never knew I had left the org. already knew, and shunned me, so how did they find out. Oh I wonder how (gossip maybe) some of these people where family members.
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  You had to go an ask me why I'm so angry?

  by Mindchild in

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  try this on for size.... skip starbuck: i was at a district assembly.

  skip starbuck: i was about 9 years old.

  skip starbuck: and i had trench mouth really bad.

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  MC; I feel so bad for you to have something like that happen to you especially when you were feeling sick. That should have never happened. Sometimes what goes around comes around. I had a mean mother, and now I won't have anything to do with her, because I can't handle the verbal abuse she hands out. I never raised a hand to my children. I remember when I was little and I used to hear some parents beating their kids out back at the Kingdom Hall, it used to make me so upset. I guess I am just sensitive, but always felt bad for the children. Sometimes I would think maybe someone should take out the parents and beat the crap out of them and see how they felt. When there was a talk on the platform regarding discipline of children, that was a real hay-day for beatings for the kids. I hated being at the meetings on those days. If you had of been my child, I would not have even attended the service that day and stayed with you and took proper care of you till you felt better. HOW CRUEL PEOPLE CAN BE.
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  Am I the Oldest One here??

  by Undecided in

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  today is my birthday, born in 1936. that makes me 66. i can hardly beleive it.

  i'm still in good health but know it's just a short run until something does me in.

  i'm really thankful for the great life i've enjoyed, no real problems that i consider serious.

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  HAPPY 'B' DAY AND MANY MORE; You are as old as you feel. Have a celebration drink for me. I'm sure you are not the oldest one here.
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  What was the JW breaking point 4 U?

  by ashitaka in

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  we have a thread that asks why we became jw's, so i became curious as to why some of us have left.

  what was the last straw for you?.

  mine was the treatment of my wife.

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  I began to see how double-standards works in JW families, control was another. Then when I started to think for myself, and speaking my mind that was not accepted, and family turned on me, I mean isn't everyone entitled to their own opinion, apparently not when it came to me, but seem to work for everyone else. Oh and one big one would be when I went out in service one day and was totally embarassed by someone, because I was shy and too stupid to keep my mouth shut. When the PO embarassed me, I no longer wanted to go out in service, just wanted to go home. What happened was totally uncalled for and if this person had any maturity at all he would have known better than to say what he did say. That was the start of my fading away from truth. Now I don't have to deal with arrogant people like him.
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  CURE MY INSOMNIA!!!

  by ashitaka in

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  please help me sleep!!!!.

  food remedies, relaxation techniques, etc?

  open for any suggestions.. i have no pills, so that suggestion wouldn't help.. gracias.. ashi

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  I FORGOT THIS ONE; babies most always have a warm bottle of milk at bedtime. I used to warm up a cup of milk for myself and sip it, strangley enough it also worked.
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  CURE MY INSOMNIA!!!

  by ashitaka in

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  please help me sleep!!!!.

  food remedies, relaxation techniques, etc?

  open for any suggestions.. i have no pills, so that suggestion wouldn't help.. gracias.. ashi

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  When I get insomnia I use Valarian, a herbal pill, take two within half an hour I am sleepy, and wake up feeling refreshed. Or sleepy-time tea, chamomile tea works for some. Reading a book now is my knock-me out thing, I am lucky if I get finished 2 pages. Someone suggested once taking a bath with lavender in it, never worked on me though. SEX always seemed to work for both me and hubby though.
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  I'm angry and scared

  by MoodyBlue in

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  i've been out of the witnesses for a year...and in that span i've become more of a skeptic towards any sort of religion or god.

  i don't know if i will ever again have faith in a supernatural, all loving and powerful being.

  i suppose this is because the only god i really know anymore is jehovah of the watchtower- who to me is nothing more than a jealous, angry and vindictive creature.

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  Many of us have had the same feelings as you, I experienced some as you fear of aging, fear of punishment by God, when I left I felt everything that went wrong in my life was because I was being punished by God for leaving. I also feared aging, and death, but now as time has gone by, I don't fear those anymore, when I die I will be sleeping, to me nothing more than that. Aging is a process we cannot stop however, we just have to accept it. Give yourself some time, it takes time to get through all these feelings. Let God live within yourself, what's in your heart. I hope in time you feel better, and are able to live a more peaceful life. Life is to short for worries as these, live and try to be happy. Try to be you, not what others want you to be, or think you should be.
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  Part 11: The Amalgamated Wedding

  by Amazing in

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  part 11: the amalgamated wedding .

  by now, tensions between the elders and me had subsided.

  we were gearing up for the wedding.

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  You talk about tension, I don't know how you managed to pull this off, most would fall apart under such circumstances. We had a family funeral out West and that turned into a war between family friends, I mean really getting into each others faces. I was just young and couldn't believe this would ever happen at a funeral of a loved one. Good for you for handling this occasion so well. Looking forward to your next post.
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  Amazing's Triumph - Mixed Feelings

  by Perry in

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  amazing wrote:.

  "i was able to get my wife and children out, and this led to my son-in-law and a close friend leaving at the same time.

  so, i am among the more fortunate in that my immediate family, and non-jw friends and relatives were all there with me as i exited.

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  AMAZING: I truly enjoyed your post. The most touching part to me was the fact that your family means so much to you, that you would do anything for them, trying your hardest to make sure that you all remain togeather, and letting your children choose for themselves the direction they will take, that is outstanding, I know some elders who lord it over their families so badly that what he says goes and no one else even has a chance to give input as to what they would like.When I decided to join the org., we gave up alot of old friends, who I wish now were back in our lives, it is very hard to rekindle old friendships, but can be done gradually. Because I was the only one in our immediate family who became a JW, not my husband, he also gave up much for me, the celebrating of Christmas, birthdays, etc., and did so without any complaints, because he loves me. Now that I left, I sometimes feel the guilt for him giving up so much. I never forced becoming a JW on my children, when they reached an age were they expressed to me what they wanted to do, I never pressured them to staying in the org., they were never baptized. The posts you have written show your strong love for your family. I look forward to reading more. The best to you and your family.