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  Check out my avartar

  by truthseeker in

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  what do you think of my new avatar?

  be honest.

  i got the idea from that new website http://www.werenotafraid.com/.. truthseeker.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Cute!
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  I Need help!

  by cazza in

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  i need help making one of the most important decisions of my life, i was brought up a witness and fell away nearly 9 years ago.

  i firmly believe what i was taught and still believe in the truth.

  theres just a few questions i would like asking but never have the opportunity to ask anyone.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Welcome to the board, Cazza.

  Don't stress about the details right now. Just enjoy the people here who are open minded and willing to help out no matter what your decision about you fiancee. Read different posts and stick around!

  GG
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  JW kids who are currently in college LOVED the convention drama!

  by urbanized in

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  here's a transcript of a post about the 2005 godly obedience convention (which i read about on this board and seemed to highlight a drama in which a biblical story was highly distorted in order to discourage higher education) from a jw youth group on www.myspace.com.

  posted: jul 5, 2005 6:43 pm.

  hey everyone!

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  Thegoodgirl

  That was the oddest time for me to be a JW. In community college, seriously considering leaving the JWs, but also starting to make some good friends within the org. I guess I would have that compartmental thing going on, come to think of it, but it wasn't on purpose. I never tried to conscously be fake, but I would just have moments of spirituality where I would close my eyes to the years of doubts in my mind.

  That's kind of annoying and sad to read their posts. God, I'm worried for all those normal ones who are going to be swayed away from college!
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  whip it good

  by Ms. Whip in

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  i was really trying to sneak in here...but, it's only right to say "hi" and make a brief introduction.

  glad to be here.

  i just want to say that i apologize in advance for anything i might say from here on out.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Wecome Whip!
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  Is good fortune on my side? Wife wants to move.

  by ithinkisee in

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  2. friends

  those of you that know i am about to tell my wife what i have learned about jws religion soon.

  we're talking likely less than a week.. anyways, i have in the past couple months dropped hints about moving somewhere else.

  our house has literally tripled in value since we purchased 5 years ago, and we bought some property last year that has gone up 600%.

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  How great for you! I do hope it all works out. I totally beleive in the moving thing, but beware of those small town congregations... they can be worse than anything! Good luck, you have the perfect excuse to back away from your congo.
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  Muslim Extremists & JWs----Living A Double Life

  by minimus in

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  isn't it amazing to see how these people can mingle in society and in reality be living a double life?

  they may be nice to your face but ultimately, they think we (those who do not conform to their beliefs) deserve death.

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  Thegoodgirl

  That's true, I guess everyone sort of thinks they are right and everyone else is unfortunately living in the dark. But the similarity btwn Extremist Muslims and JWs are they are both very exclusive, very extreme, and are willing to fight to the death for their religion. (JWs will allow themselves or their children to die with no blood transfusion, Extremists Muslims allow themselves to die to make their point.)

  I think most others in the world, when backed into a corner will chose life independent from their identified peer group or religion than death standing up for them.

  But then again, look at all these young, well meaning kids going off to war for their country...(By the way, as my disclaimer that I am well aware of our hard working troops, I worked at a "boot camp" type of situation for a certain branch of our armed forces recently for a clinical rotation, and I have so much more respect for those guys now. They really do mean well, and THEY ARE SO YOUNG!!! Just babies.)
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  Why do you come to JWD?

  by jeanniebeanz in

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  Thegoodgirl

  To procrastinate from studying.

  Also I like you guys! I'm actually afraid I'm using this site as a substitute for picking up the phone and calling a friend, but it's so convenient, and I'm so busy...

  I have mostly online classes this semester, which leaves me open to stop by this site, like way too often!
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  A Dream Come True!

  by HadEnuf in

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  my husband was on the phone with the elder who was the po at the time of the great "wedding fiasco".

  let's just say my husband initiated the conversation (i can't go into details) and just before he hung up i said something i've been wanting to say for almost 6 years!

  i yelled at the top of my lungs: (now mind you; i was only about a foot from the phone) f**k you!!!

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  Thegoodgirl

  congratulations :)
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  help

  by Lot in

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  this is my first post of any significance and if i seem to ramble at times please forgive me.

  i have alot to say and i don't know how much of it will make sense.. .

  i need help in trying to figure out how to get out of "the truth".

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  Lot, Welcome!

  Sorry for your dilemma. It's a tough spot because you have no reasons (other than you know you are living a lie) to leave. What I suggest is to basically drift (which you are sort of doing). A little less meetings, a little more "extracirricular". Maybe join a neighborhood group or join a local running club, and invite your wife too. Hopefully you'll start to make some friends out of the org and have a bit of support there. Then "all your friends" won't be JWs anymore. It's so hard when your family is in. The first few months will be spent listening to them pleading for you to attend all meetings, etc. But after a while, you'll be sort of labeled "weak in the truth" in their minds, and hopefully they'll expect less "spiritually" from you. You can play dumb, and just say "but I need the exercise" or "I have to work late" etc. In no way give them a reason to DF you. No "I'm doubting the society" type of thing.

  The other option is to pick up your stuff and move to another area. (Bring your wife and kids, of course). Not easy, I'm sure, but it really makes it easier to cut ties. Get your publisher cards transferred over, meet about two people in the new hall, go to about 1 or 2 meetings, and then don't go anymore! Don't answer the door, don't answer calls when the elders come knocking.

  That's what I did, I moved. Actually moved twice in one year. It worked like a charm, but then again, I was single and moving off to college, so it was different than your situation.

  Good luck, I've been there. You're among people who have been there too.

  GG
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  Women, girls, ladies -- 5 biggest "turn on's" / "turn off's"

  by logansrun in

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  ladies,.

  in preperation for a class i'll be taking starting next month entitled "history of love, sex and marriage" i would like to probe your heart's desire to find out the 5 biggest turn on's and 5 biggest turn off's you find in men.

  and well, hell, i also would just like to add to my general knowledge.

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  Thegoodgirl

  ONs:

  1. Great sense of humor

  2. Smart (as in world traveller type, knows more about stuff than everyone else)

  3. Blushes easily

  4. Quiet/mysterious (something different about the guy, must stand out from the others who are just running their mouths)

  5. I love the goatee, too! (maybe because that was forbidden for jdubs)

  6. Physical labor (I just love to see a guy work hard! Reminds me of this crush I had as a JW witness, he would always come over and help my mom with car repairs, and I would just think he is the greatest)

  OFFs:

  1. picking his nose

  2. boring, likes to stay in

  3. close mindedness!!!!!!!!!!

  4. Haughty, show off-y, thinks he knows more than others, and tries to let them know it. So annoying.

  5. Smoking. It's like, yuck, I really don't want to deal with trying to get this guy to quit. Plus he's going to die before me, no thanks.