Posts by love2Bworldly

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Do JWs contribute to co-dependency behavior?

by love2Bworldly in

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i was a jw from age 12 to age 21. i also had an extremely dysfunctional family.

i am sitting here at work (work is slow) and i am wondering whether there was a bigger influence on me to have co-dependency behavior from my life as a jw or the fact that my family was really messed up.. i am thinking about the fact that i am soon to be divorced from a second person who has an addictive personality and/or abusive type of personality, and i am wondering how much influence the jws instilled in me to marry quickly and try to make that marriage work even after finding out how dysfunctional that person is.. i am not looking for excuses or blame.

i know i am the one who made the wrong choices.

love2Bworldly

Lady Lee-- wanted to say thank you for mentioning those books. They helped change my life. "Toxic Parents", excellent read.

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Parents of Teens--I need encouragement

by love2Bworldly in

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i am really feeling down today, can't stop crying.

i just need some words of encouragement from other parents that i will survive my kids' teen years.

my 13 year old is trying to discover/find herself, has emotional issues--since birth, cuts/burns herself secretly--she is on prozac, in regular counseling, spent time last year in a physchiatric hospital, and just generally always has stomach aches or conflicts with other peers and is flunking math as usual as well as getting bad grades in citizenship lately.. my 17 year old son is on probation for being in a fight last fall, and does illegal stuff for cash.

love2Bworldly

I was looking over an old post I started 6 years ago & wanted to give you'all an update on my 3 WONDERFUL children!!!

I must have done something right with my parenting, or I am just damn lucky!

My oldest daughter is now 26, has her master's degree and will obtain her Ph.D after 3 more years of schooling.

My son is 23 & has been working for several years for a marketing company, (he moved out of my town to get away from his negative peer group first), he is making great money, is very professional, travels to other cities & states, and speaks to crowds of sometimes 100 people. I see him about once a week even though is works 6 days a week & doesn't live in my city.

And my youngest daughter is now 20. She no longer cuts herself or engages in dangerous behaviors. (She spent 18 months at the age of 16 in a forced placement in a school in another state for difficult teens) She graduated from high school-- big accomplishment for her. Now she is living with her friend, going to school part time & working part time. And she likes herself, which is the best thing of all.

And Mom is doing great-- I married a wonderful man who was my boyfriend of 4 years. So Life is great!

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What are some things you can get MARKED for that you wont be DF for?

by BU2B in

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i know of one case of a woman being marked for marrying a non jw.

do you know of other cases where someone did something and were marked and not df?

were any here ever marked?

love2Bworldly

How did people find out someone was "marked"? Is it just through gossip? I do remember sometimes there being public talks about staying away from certain types of behaviors, but no names were mentioned, and then later my girlfriend (whose dad was an elder) would tell me the talk was because so-and-so was doing the behaviors mentioned in the talk.

But if my girlfriend didn't tell me, I wouldn't know who they were talking about.

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Are you happy?

by cyberjesus in

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"happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony".

m gandi.. .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fljsdqxnzb0.

love2Bworldly

Thank you for sharing the video. My husband is a Life Coach and we have classes every week, and that video is reinforcing what my husband teaches. We teach "Healthy Body, Healthy Mind". So the life coaching program we do is based upon helping a person get healthy physically through exercise, nutrition, supplements, healthy eating and with that changing your thinking.

A lot of the life coaching tools we use include meditation, journaling, listening to affirmational CDs etc, which several of those were mentioned in the video. So I am sharing the video with my husband-- thanks again. I like it.

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How to identify Publishers who know TTATT

by His Excellency in

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since coming to know ttatt, i have always wondered if there are others in the congregation who also share similar experience with me, are there pointers to identifying others who are also faking meeting attendance and fs activities..

love2Bworldly

Ok can I ask a dumb question, what is TTATT? I don't post here regularly.

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3rd Oil Spill This Week

by designs in

exxon, shell, and canadian pacific railway all had oil spills reported this week.

exxon and shell's oil spills were from ruptured pipelines and canadian pacific had a railcar accident.. the exxon spill flooded streets and the yards of homes outside of little rock arkansas and the shell spill occured outside houston texas near the vince bayou.

residents of the little rock community never knew that high pressure pipelines ran under their homes which is a disturbing fact being discovered more and more.

love2Bworldly

Heavy sigh........ I don't understand why the US government doesn't do more to promote transportation that does not need fossil fuel. I get frustrated at the fact that mankind has come a long way but has a very long way to go. I don't understand why people don't respect our planet. I understand that greed & money is the culprit, but I still don't understand why so many humans are so greedy & selfish & uneducated.

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The music that moves you....

by FlyingHighNow in

once when i was profoundly sad for too many days, my brother in law sent us a mix tape.

he named each song after a person in our family.

this is the one he named heather.

love2Bworldly

I was a single mom of 3 for many years, so I adore the song Landslide by Stevie Nicks.

I think I want it played at my funeral & dedicated to my kids.

Landslide - written by Stevie Nicks
- appears on Fleetwood Mac White Album (1975); Fleetwood Mac Live (1980);

Fleetwood Mac - The Chain (1992); Fleetwood Mac - The Dance (live) (1997);The Very Best of Fleetwood Mac (2002)

Lyrics

I took my love, I took it down
Climbed a mountain and I turned around
I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills
'Till the landslide brought me down

Oh, mirror in the sky
What is love
Can the child within my heart rise above
Can I sail through the changing ocean tides
Can I handle the seasons of my life

Well, I've been afraid of changing
'Cause I've built my life around you
But time makes you get bolder
Even children get older
And I'm getting older too

Oh, take my love, take it down
Climb a mountain and turn around
If you see my reflection in the snow covered hills
Well the landslide will bring it down

If you see my reflection in the snow covered hills
Well the landslide will bring it down.

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Anyone in AA?

by love2Bworldly in

i just joined overeaters anonymous to deal with my eating issues.

has anyone joined aa & did it help you?

i just don't like how they tend to talk about god all the time.

love2Bworldly

I joined OA because my eating habits have become progressively worse and I don't feel like I can control my eating any more. I am turning 50 this year and am really depressed about my weight. My medical chart now reads "obese" even though you wouldn't know it by looking at me. If you are 30 or more pounds overweight, you are labeled "obese".

I have a lot of wonderful good habits-- I walk daily, I do 16 flights of stairs at least 4 times a week at work, I drink a lot of water, eat a lot of healthy food & take a lot of nutritional supplements. But I eat too much, I eat when I am bored mostly, but my problem is that I think about food ALL the time which is not healthy. It has become an emotional crutch for my boredom, or being upset or whatever. If I am eating something I like, I can't stop when I am full I keep eating. It's so frustrating and it makes me feel stupid. I read all the time about nutrition etc & supplements etc & what is the latest scientific info etc, yet I can't seem to stop overeating for emotional gratification.

Wish me luck everyone. I think if I can just go for a few weeks without chocolate & overeating, I just may be able to find success and a smaller waistline. The beginning is really really hard. I have memorized every helpful hint from every diet plan out there-- brushing your teeth so you don't want to eat more, drinking water, eating more fiber, etc etc etc and so far none of that has worked for me. I joined & quit Weight Watchers a couple of times the past 2 years. I tried taping a picture of me as a younger thinner person to my mirror. I tried putting positive affirmations on my closet door & refrigerator about being healthy. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh So anyway, that is why I finally googled Overeaters Anonymous and am ready to try something different that has a support system & a sponsor.

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Anyone in AA?

by love2Bworldly in

i just joined overeaters anonymous to deal with my eating issues.

has anyone joined aa & did it help you?

i just don't like how they tend to talk about god all the time.

love2Bworldly

Thanks for all the input. I think AA is a great organization. I think it is going to help me with issues I need a support system for.

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Anyone in AA?

by love2Bworldly in

i just joined overeaters anonymous to deal with my eating issues.

has anyone joined aa & did it help you?

i just don't like how they tend to talk about god all the time.

love2Bworldly

I just joined Overeaters Anonymous to deal with my eating issues. Has anyone joined AA & did it help you? I just don't like how they tend to talk about God all the time. I am agnostic. So I decided to deal with it like this, my higher power is my higher self that is part of the collective positive field of energy of other positive people in which I draw strength & power from. I have never been in a 12 step program before.

Wish me luck.