You need to research jw's in general. You do not have a handle at all on what life with a jw would mean to you, your children and relationship. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you if you have not been told yet but jw's are in fact a dangerous and sometimes deadly cult. Research the no blood policy, how they hide and protect pedophiles, abuses, spiritual abuses, practice extreme shunning, biblical doctrines, etc... etc... By the way, jw's are not Christian.
jw.facts.com is an excellent place to start.
Read this forum or others to see all the heartache the jw's cause all over the world. They destroy families and relationships daily.
Find someone more suited to real family, real unconditional love and someone who will have the courage to say no to 'church' or family for the love of a good woman.
Wishing you well on your recovery from your broken heart. You probably dodged a bullet and so have your children. Protect your children, it's your job. Protect yourself and your heart, you deserve better.
Why can't you have a relationship with him when he gets reinstated? If you like some old men in NY to control the following then go for it-
The gb (governing body) control the following: (not a complete list as it would take a book)
your sex life, what you can & can't do in the bedroom
what you & your man can wear
what holidays you can celebrate (only a wedding anniversary and the reject Jesus memorial)
who you should associate with
who you vote for (nobody as jw's don't vote)
no girlscout cookies
what you can read for pleasure
what you can watch -tv or movies - never R rated and many pg are out too
what you can discuss with people
if you can have 'spiritual' discussions with significant others who are not jw's
your time- weekday meetings, Sat morn field service (fs) and Sunday another 4 hours or so, if you or he become super dubs (term for jw's) you will pioneer and that is like a no paid part time job. Then there are assemblies and conventions to consider. One day for assemblies and 3 days for conventions.
what websites you can visit- hint, not this one
what you can research about God, bible, biblical history etc... no need to research anything! in fact if you do they will be suspicious of you
and the list could go on.....
Perks of being a jw?
you can lie with impunity due to their spiritual warfare policy
you can be a glutton and become obese, they don't seem to care about that one
you can become an alcoholic as long as it is not known and you don't give their god jah (jehovah) a bad name
ditto if you like to physically abuse people and children
ditto if you like to sexually abuse children
you can become a self righteous ass and feel confident because all your friends at the kh (kingdom hall) are exactly like you. Oddly you get to also feel like a sub human piece of garbage because you are never doing enough for jah and the organization either
you can forget those pesky gray areas in life as now everything is black and white
you no longer have to worry about what you will believe because as soon as the next video (or literature) from NY comes out they will tell you what to believe
instant 'friends'- naw, just kidding, they are only your friends as long as you tow the company line, veer outside of the line and there goes all your friends and family.
If you don't like certain family members including children you can easily off them if they are ever in need of blood, just say no to blood
Goodness, I'm on a roll! don't get me started.....