As a ubm I can't tell you how many people thought my jw was arrogant when discussing anything religious. These comments came from people who truly loved him but saw the extreme change in him once he became fully committed to the cult. It actually brings me to tears to think about it sometimes. I don't say that lightly either. I haven't been around many jw's to be honest, the few times I have I would say the women are the worst! I am just going to say it, it rhymes with 'witches'.
When my jw was first joining up people would ask me what was wrong with him? why was he so angry? and so forth and this did not even include any jw discussion. He was merely seeing these former friends as 'non jw's ' who were 'less than'? worthy of destruction? these were people we grew up with and were in our wedding party.
As a side note, I still wonder why jw's do not use paragraphs when posting online? I see this here and elsewhere and I can tell a newly pimo from a mile away for this reason. Anyone know why this might be?