I have read previous things you have written about your experience, told my jw, big surprise? yes, you must be an apostate with an ax to grind, never happened, blah, blah, blah......
So sorry Terry.
Posts by carla
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6A Jehovah's Witness matter clearly not understood by a great many members (concerning imprisonment)
by Terry induring the vietnam war (1955 - 1975) young men reaching the age of 18 were required by law to register for the draft within 30 days of that birthday.jehovah's witnesses included.most jw's did not (perhaps never did) understand the situation faced by young brothers in the congregation.the general "understanding" among the rank and file went something like this.1.
jw's serve jehovah as ruler rather than men.
2. we believe "thou shalt not kill."3.
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Oh How Far I've Come
by pale.emperor inso this weekend my girlfriend and i will move into our own place together.
it turns out that “a cord of three strands is stronger” is bullshit and two people in a relationship are perfectly capable of being happy without outside influence.
what a journey i’ve had since leaving 3 and a half years ago!
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carla
Congratulations! and best wishes for a life of continued happiness and freedom.
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confused with nowhere to turn
by Rebecca ini'm 43 and a divorced mother of 2. in january 2019 i met the man i thought i could spend the rest of my life with.
we were happy and even though our relationship wasn't perfect (like all relationships) i thought we had a chance and were building a life together with our young kids.
background on me - i've been divorced since 2012 after 12 years of marriage.
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carla
You need to research jw's in general. You do not have a handle at all on what life with a jw would mean to you, your children and relationship. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you if you have not been told yet but jw's are in fact a dangerous and sometimes deadly cult. Research the no blood policy, how they hide and protect pedophiles, abuses, spiritual abuses, practice extreme shunning, biblical doctrines, etc... etc... By the way, jw's are not Christian.
jw.facts.com is an excellent place to start.
Read this forum or others to see all the heartache the jw's cause all over the world. They destroy families and relationships daily.
Find someone more suited to real family, real unconditional love and someone who will have the courage to say no to 'church' or family for the love of a good woman.
Wishing you well on your recovery from your broken heart. You probably dodged a bullet and so have your children. Protect your children, it's your job. Protect yourself and your heart, you deserve better.
Why can't you have a relationship with him when he gets reinstated? If you like some old men in NY to control the following then go for it-
The gb (governing body) control the following: (not a complete list as it would take a book)
your sex life, what you can & can't do in the bedroom
what you & your man can wear
what holidays you can celebrate (only a wedding anniversary and the reject Jesus memorial)
who you should associate with
who you vote for (nobody as jw's don't vote)
no girlscout cookies
what you can read for pleasure
what you can watch -tv or movies - never R rated and many pg are out too
what you can discuss with people
if you can have 'spiritual' discussions with significant others who are not jw's
your time- weekday meetings, Sat morn field service (fs) and Sunday another 4 hours or so, if you or he become super dubs (term for jw's) you will pioneer and that is like a no paid part time job. Then there are assemblies and conventions to consider. One day for assemblies and 3 days for conventions.
what websites you can visit- hint, not this one
what you can research about God, bible, biblical history etc... no need to research anything! in fact if you do they will be suspicious of you
and the list could go on.....
Perks of being a jw?
you can lie with impunity due to their spiritual warfare policy
you can be a glutton and become obese, they don't seem to care about that one
you can become an alcoholic as long as it is not known and you don't give their god jah (jehovah) a bad name
ditto if you like to physically abuse people and children
ditto if you like to sexually abuse children
you can become a self righteous ass and feel confident because all your friends at the kh (kingdom hall) are exactly like you. Oddly you get to also feel like a sub human piece of garbage because you are never doing enough for jah and the organization either
you can forget those pesky gray areas in life as now everything is black and white
you no longer have to worry about what you will believe because as soon as the next video (or literature) from NY comes out they will tell you what to believe
instant 'friends'- naw, just kidding, they are only your friends as long as you tow the company line, veer outside of the line and there goes all your friends and family.
If you don't like certain family members including children you can easily off them if they are ever in need of blood, just say no to blood
Goodness, I'm on a roll! don't get me started.....
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Annual Meeting 2019 - part one
by TheFadingAlbatros inthe jw.org organization looks every passing day more and more like a building firm made in usa:.
https://www.jw.org/en/library/videos/#en/mediaitems/studiofeatured/pub-jwb_202001_1_video.
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carla
Some of us won't go to jw dot org, want to tell us more?
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Does Anyone Elses PIMI Family Do A "Not Christmas" Day?
by pale.emperor ini was told today that my jw family had a massive family gathering with presents exchanged, drinks and a big roast dinner.
they even wore paper hats.. the day they chose for this family day?.
26th december.. totally not christmas or anything - honest.. does anyone elses family do that?
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carla
So, just like the non Thanksgiving meal that they have right?
Good for the jw's who actually do give gifts and have a family celebration. I wonder what the gb thinks of it?
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1st Cent.Crucifixions to Order and for Sport
by BluesBrother ini found this video interesting, from the smithsonian channel.
it explains how commonplace crucifixions were with specific mention of the patebelum crosspiece.
https://www.smithsonianchannel.com/videos/crucifixion-became-a-very-popular-roman-spectator-sport/69754?an=history.
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carla
I remember a site that showed that if Jesus was hung the way jw's claim He would have died within 10 minutes or so. Showed my jw some of the articles, obviously made no difference.
Here is one article-
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2004/apr/08/thisweekssciencequestions
"....One of the most severe methods of crucifixion put the arms straight above the victim. "That can [kill in] 10 minutes to half an hour - it's just impossible to breathe under those conditions," Ward says."
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My BPD Sister Passed Away
by babygirl30 ini have started this, then restarted it, and it still sucks to even write this out - but my younger sister passed away unexpectedly last saturday (on my birthday).
i am going through all the grieving emotions, but there is more to the story that i could never and would never talk about to anyone that didn't understand the jw rhetoric.
so...here i am.. my sister has had borderline personality disorder (bpd) for as long as i can remember.
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carla
I am so sorry for your loss and all the jw bs that you have endured and will continue to endure. I'm sure a former ex jw here will have something more profound for you. Wishing you peace.
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Poll: When my PIMI wife comes back from meeting. she is a different person. how many out there experience the same and why?
by goingthruthemotions inso i am trying to understand if i am the only pomo that experiences the situation where the pimi spouse comes back from a meeting a different personanlity.
it may not be obivious to the untrained eye, but i notice it and i know my sons notice it.
this last round after all the loyalty bs and armagedon bs it's like she has stayed stuck in it.
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carla
Yes!!!!!
You can't bother pointing it out to them because they will say something stupid like, "well, if I'm being brainwashed everybody should be" or something as ridiculous. They see it as a good thing.
After a convention? it can take anywhere from a few days or weeks to wear off. Guess it depends on the convention, their personal feelings of dubiness at the moment or state of the world. That is my opinion.
When mine first joined up his eyes actually glazed over like you might see in the movies, scared the crap out of me. My jw changed so much after meetings the kids noticed as well. Now it is not as much if at all on a regular basis. Maybe he got better at snapping between worlds? his jw life and then home to non jw wife & family.
From a purely psychological point of few it can be an interesting study. Just wish I was looking in at will not having to live it.
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Don Adams has passed away
by RubaDub ini received a call from a friend in new york city that don adams passed away late last evening (30 dec 2019).
many of you bethelites know him and he was the president of the society for a number of years after the gb got out of the corporate structure business.
from what i understand, he was generally liked by many there.. some in my family knew him.
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carla
Do the r & f learn of a big wigs death at the kh? Will they do some sort of video memorial for him or any of the gb?
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carla
"They are the group of Christians..."- only in their own minds. Nobody I know considers them 'Christian'.
"...His will.."- you mean like hiding pedophiles? breaking up families and not allowing natural affection? making requirements on dress, make up, hair cuts, etc...? Those things do make them 'unique' as far as religious folks go. Most religions claim love, family, helping widows and orphans, feeding the hungry, clothing the poor, etc...