Hi Scotsman,
I am sorry to hear about the betrayal of your mother. She was only doing what she thought was right. She doesn't want to displease Jehovah. Her heart hurts for you I am sure. She is probably so torn from this whole situation also and feels so helpless.
Our Moms good bad or indifferent do try to do the best for us. If there is a way to sit and talk this whole thing out with her. Keep the lines of communication open as you have this reprieve. You were there when she needed you most and now it is her turn to make some decisions. Hopefully to be there for you.
You are going through an extemely hard time and you need some really positive energized friends to help you through. Go to some support groups. Make some friends outside the congregation. This was extremely positive for my son. Although I had left the organization before anything came up.
Do not let anyone define who you are. Do not feel guilty for all the love you have given others. Your Mom will need this compassion if you can give it.
Sincerely,
good luck in the near future
Cathy