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  My Daughter Just Graduated From College!

  by GoingGoingGone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  she was about 13 or 14 when i first started having serious doubts about the wts.

  when i informed her of my doubts a couple years later, she took the information and ran with it.... she never looked back.

  i told her she could be whatever she wanted to be if she only worked hard enough.

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  The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving Kindness- No need for religion in spirituality

  by OnTheWayOut in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  reading tmj4477's thread about religion after jw's and reading perry trying to counter ak-jeff on a thread about god and suffering, both of these made me want to post some eastern thought that doesn't fall into the category of "religious" but might help nonetheless.. .

  excerpt from the wisdom of no escape (with subtitle: and the path of loving-kindness).

  chapter 8: no such thing as a true storyin taoism there's a famous saying that goes, "the tao that can be spoken is not the ultimate tao.

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  What happened to your marriage after you stopped believing?

  by JerkhovahsWitless in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know some posters here went through or are going through some painful things right now because of no longer believing when they have a husband / wife that still does.

  others were able to free the minds of their spouse.

  i'm assuming the latter is a lot more rare.. anyone that wishes to share their story, please do.. i'm looking to pass the info on to someone who doesn't totally believe, but may marry a jw.

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  Paulapollos

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  thank you for joining this site.

  your inner knowledge is simply fascinating.

  please tell us more!!!!

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  Question for still active JW's / Faders

  by cantleave in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  do you still contribute for literature, give to the worldwide work, kingdom hall fund or contribute towards the upkeep of your local kh?

  if you do - why?.

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  How are you faders doing?

  by pat1060 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just wondering how all you slow faders are doing.i know this subject is discussed many times,but personally i wish it was more.we should post every once in a while just to say how we are doing,we need to encourage each other.as for me,it is still going very slow.right now i'm looking into the history that is being covered up.i have learned so much just by reading the older threads.it is very painful for me because this was the truth.and to be finding out so much crap that 99% of jw don't even know,it just is unbelievable.i have cut my field service down,and miss more meetings then i ever did.i'm hoping the sister that is in my face all the time,trying to help me,will forget about me soon......so how are you doing?.

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  The disconnect effect

  by truthseeker in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this is kind of hard to put into words.

  i have faded for over a year now and have moved on with my new life.. i still have friends and family who are jws that i care for very much.

  i don't say anything to them about jws and they don't know i no longer believe and miss meetings.. i am in contact with them because they are nice people even though they would shun me in a heartbeat if they found out about me - but - this is where it gets tricky.... i find the more things i do that are in opposition to jw rules and regulations, nothing bad mind you, the more disconnect i feel towards my jw relatives and friends.

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  can you really ever fade with immediate family still in?

  by oompa in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am beginning to think not....elders still want to call on me rather than befriend me in any way.....and with a "good" wife and son and parents in, it seems like i still have one foot in only because of the overlap with my other "free" self........it is hard to really feel free in this situation, and is still have desire to just run the fluck away.....which would mean pretty much giving up my family in nearly every respect.

  some here really miss their family and wife, others so love the freedom they seem able to move on and start fresh....as you know, i dont seem to have the balls for that, and at this point in my life the price seems to high to fully start over........it is the "one in one out limbo dance"......oompa.

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  Is there such a thing as dispensation for blood use?

  by bythesea in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i was talking with "worldly" friends the other day and they mentioned a jw friend they knew who recently had some serious surgery and received a special dispensation so that she could have blood for this surgery.

  that's what they claim she told my friends....the husband is an elder, and it was suggested that through his contacts that he was able to get this for her.

  i expressed disbelief and have asked my friends to see if they can get more info about her "dispensation" and whether she actually recv'd whole blood or fractions during surgery.

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  Did You Feel Living Under Strict Rules Kept You In The Religion?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know of many people who actually prefer to be told what to do or what not to do because it's easier for them to co-exist.

  they just act on autopilot and seem for the most part happy.. some feel that government isn't really an interference; the more laws the better!.

  some "in the truth" also feel that "whatever mother says is good enough for me".

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